(Closed) Seating Advice for Divorced Parents

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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202 posts
Helper bee

I have a similar situation, except my parents have been divorced practically since they got married (over 25 years)! LOL  My dad doesn’t care, but mom absolutely refuses to be near my dad.  I think I will put each set of parents at a separate table, near the head table, so that the other close relatives, siblings, grandparents, and maybe SOs of the bridal party attendants can sit in the front all together.  I was going to put FI’s parents and one of my sets of parents together, but I’m afraid the other excluded set of parents will be offended.  I don’t know that my dad will care so much, but my mom definitely would care if I seated my dad and his wife with SO’s parents.  I think having them all separate will be the best way to go.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was in your situation but it was for my hub’s parents. They have been divorced for 8 years and his Mom remarried which his dad still has issues with (valid or not) so I had to keep them separated. Not to mention, his dad’s sister and mother definitely are still at odds with his mom. They missed his brother’s wedding because of this “feud”. So I sat my FIL with his mom and sister’s family at one table and at a separate table his mom was joined by some of her side of the family and each table was near the sweetheart table. Luckily, it really did work out. Thank God!

Maybe you can do the same.

Post # 6
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

My parents and FI’s parents are both divorced. We asked them each to make a list of 8-14 people they would like to sit with and will let each parent have their own little table. I wouldn’t make my parents sit together or make his – they’d all be really uncomfortable.

Post # 7
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We did something similar to option 3 for our wedding. We also had three tables directly in front of the head table; one for my MIL, one for my parents, one for my FIL.

My DH’s parents are going through a divorce and obviously didn’t want to sit at the same table. Neither are that close to their siblings/extended family. We just asked what 8 ppl they wanted to sit with and put them there. So my FFIL sat with 8 friends. I didn’t really care that these randoms had the close seats – it kept my in-laws happy.

And really, how much time does everyone spend at their table? 1 hr max.

Post # 8
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Option 3 – Your parents will spend more time sitting at the tables than you will, so I would make them comfortable.  Seat them separately and surround them by their own friends and family.  Even if you aren’t close to your father’s family, how close they are to your table shouldn’t really matter. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Since both of our parents are divorced we are having each parent host ther own table with that set of Grandparents and close friends/family memebers. That way noone is excluded and they enjoy the comany of the people they are seated with. I would come up with a seating chart that would make yor mom comfortable, I am sure your mom would “suck it up”. but I wouldn’t put my own mom in that situation.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I like sweetadeline’s suggestion – let them figure it out! haha. Me? I sat mine together. Play nice for 45 minutes, darlings! muahah

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I split ours into 2 tables for my dad and his family (aunts/cousins/step-brother) and 2 tables for my mom and her family and 3 tables for my husbands family.  I put my Dad’s tables on one side of the room and my mom’s on the other with the husbands family in between.

I know that it is hard being stuck in the middle but at the same time I understand what it’s like to have to be in the same room as an ex that I wasn’t even married to. So I can only imagine how hard it would be for your parents.  Besides, it won’t be that big of a deal to have them a different tables. You and your husband will barely have enough time to sit down and eat so don’t worry about if they are or aren’t near the headtables.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Defintely NOT Option 2.  My parents are also divorced and putting them at different tables.  I’d say Option 3 if your dad talks to his family, if not then Option 1 seems fine.

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