Post # 1
Alright … so a few questions to throw out to all of you.
As you may have read in another post I’ve made her, my mom has sadly passed away. Therefore I do not have her as a sound board. And as far as my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) all my ideas to her are incredibly stupid and will just plan out look horrible. She wants it to be *her* wedding. So I’ve come to you!
We are not doing the assigned seating thing. Except for our head table. Yes, yes, I know you don’t spend a lot of time sitting at the head table whatever whatever. However, you do eat there. And I know if I were in someones wedding and my fiancé came with me, he wouldn’t want to sit by himself and eat while I was else where. So my solution ….
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Next is our center pieces. We are going to have a fairly small wedding, 100 – 150 people. And it is totally kid friendly. So we thought a cute, affordable, interactive center piece would be ……
a betta with some river rocks
then at the end of night, give each beta to a child.
Thoughts, ideas, opinions?
Thanks for your help!!
Post # 3
i really like the beta idea. I was thinking of doing something similar at our escort card table.
Post # 4
I’d have homes lined up for the bettas ahead of time. You can’t just trust that people at the wedding will take them and be able to transport them safely home (or inclined to take them home). Those bowls aren’t the easiest to transport via car and you might end up with some reluctant owners which isn’t in the fishes best interest.
If you can find people that are excited and most of your guests live close by then I’d consider. But I’d be hesitant with the whole living centerpiece idea.
Post # 5
I love the idea, but I second guadior’s comments. My Fiance and I had originally wanted to do this. Thankfully, we DID check with families of the kids and all but one said they wouldn’t be able to take the fish.
Again, I think it’s super cute, but check with people first. Hopefully you get luckier than we did! 🙂
Post # 6
My friend recently did this at her August wedding, and it was really cute. People did find bags and take the fish home at the end of the night, but I don’t know how well it went. I felt a little bad for the fish.
My fiance noted that it was a bit odd to have a betta fish as a centerpiece/wedding symbol. Betta are fish that can’t be in the same tank as another. And, isn’t the whole wedding about the union of two? Why use a fish that is notoriously unable to get along with others and must remain alone? Anyway, I heard that and thought, "Hey! You’re right!"
Post # 7
I’m sorry you don’t have a lot of available help with planning, but at least you will get to do what you like, not what they say.
I agree with the above comments about the fish. It’s cute, but maybe not the best wedding symbolism and can potentially end badly for the fish.
I think your table arrangement looks completely logical. I was a bridesmaid this summer and we missed the first hour of the reception for pictures then the next hour+ I spent isolated from anyone else I knew at a head table, while my Fiance made small talk with my great aunt. Neither of us particularly enjoyed that part. I plan to make room for escorts at my head table especially since my maids won’t really know each other except for a couple bridal get togethers. The groomsmen are all friends.
Post # 8
Notes on the fish …
- We will be checking to make sure we have enough willing families for the fish
- We’d suppy a fish bag for traveling, glass bowl for housing, and a thing of food
- If worst comes to worst, we love beta’s and we’d just put them in our computer room… haha.
But it’s just an idea we are throwing around, once we go to decorate our site, i think we will have a better idea of if we really want to do the fish bowls.
Post # 9
I had a similar experience w/ my sister who was my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I think many people have as well, so know you’re not alone! Just stop asking her for her opinion and ask the other maids and friends, it’ll make you feel a lot better!
For the kiddies at the reception, I assigned the task to one of my bridesmaids to put together activity kits for each child. She got cute plastic activity boxes and filled them with snacks, coloring books, etc. to keep them occupied and they were a big hit! I like your fishbowl idea, and the plastic bags are very thoughtful for transporting.
In regards to head table, every person in the bridal party was married or w/ a significant other. So we opted to mix the bridal party & their guests into different tables that made sense (i.e. Best man sat with his wife at the high school friends table).
We didn’t want a sweetheart table for just the two of us, but like you said, you don’t sit at your table for very long, so we just created a table of our closest friends, which did include some of the bridal party, and mixed in some others who we knew could carry on a conversation if we were off doing some official wedding thing.
Post # 10
do the fish live very long? i know i have had a goldfish or two and by the time i got home…they didnt look so hot… maybe have a backup beta? ;o)
Post # 11
I think deciding to own a pet (even a fish) is something that shouldn’t be decided spur of the moment. Even if a parent decides not to take the fish, that parent may feel pressure from the child and you to take it. That is not the makings of a good pet owner. I’d also say that most people do not know how to properly take care of a fish, especially a beta (most people don’t even know how to pronounce their name correctly). There is a huge chance your fish will die anyway from the trauma of the evening or because of transport (they are really sensitive to handling).
I think the idea is cute as hell, but I would not do it.
Post # 12
I would be super-annoyed if someone gave my kid a fish at a wedding. It’s kind of a bad position – as a parent you are really being put on the spot. And you know that its the parent who will have to actually take care of the fish. I would actually try to sneak out without the fish, hissing at the child all the while that of course they can’t have one. After all, some people are fish people and some aren’t. Also I have three cats, so a fish in a little bowl like that wouldn’t last the day.
It’s good that you like fish, but if you’re going to do this I would be prepared to keep all the fish as that may be how it works out. Do you have that much space to set individual bowls in your computer room?
Post # 13
The thing you need to remember about betta fish is that they need to have a specific temperature of water to survive, and loud noises and lights all around them can be incredibly stressful to the fish. You don’t want to have the fish dying in the middle of your reception. Even if you’re sure you’d have good homes for them after the reception, do some research to be sure that your reception centerpiece plans will be good for their health!