(Closed) Seating at the reception: would you rather…

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How would you prefer to be seated if you didn't know people at the wedding?
    With my parents - I'd be uncomfortable at a table full of strangers. : (61 votes)
    54 %
    With other young adults - we'll be friends by the end of the night! : (51 votes)
    45 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    2475 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m not sure how young you are talking about here, but if I was bringing a date with me, I would be okay with sitting with other young adults I don’t know.  If I didn’t have a date, I’d prefer to be seated with my parents.

    Post # 4
    4382 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    with my parents. i’m usually shy around people my own age, but not with an older crowd.

    Post # 6
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would say with others my age because otherwise I would feel like a tag-along to my parents or be bored.

    Post # 7
    295 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I went to several weddings in that category when I was that age, and absolutely preferred the ones where I was sitting with others my own age. Not that I don’t love my parents, but (at the time, at least!) I saw them all the time, and at family weddings in particular, they were much more interested in catching up with other family/family friends of their generation that they rarely saw. Some of the most interesting people I’ve met at weddings have been in situations like that, too. It’s fun to find out how each person is connected to the couple.

    It’s also worth bearing in mind that if you seat family 20-somethings with their parents, you may not have a critical mass of childhood friends and others without parents at the wedding to make a full table—it’s fun when it’s a whole table of randoms and no one knows one another so you have to jump in headfirst, but not so much when it’s a table of college friends and one or two extras.

    “Young adults” meaning 13-19 would be another story—at that age, I’d have preferred sitting with my parents.

    Post # 8
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would pick sitting with a group my own age.

    Post # 9
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I see my parents all the time and I’m not particularly shy, so I think I’d probably have a better night seated with other adults my age (as long as they didn’t all know each other and weren’t all cliquey and ignored me all night or anything.) It probably depends on all the individuals involved! Just don’t put them at the kids table ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I think it depends on the person. If you are talking about anyone under 18, then they should be seated with their parents. Anyone older, it depends. Some are more comfortable sitting with their parents or grandparents and others would prefer to sit with someone else their age. There is no one-size-fits-all answer for this because it depends on your guests.

    That said, as an adult of any age, you should be able to socialize with strangers and enjoy yourself even if you don’t know anyone else, and that applies to anything, not just weddings. Most adults are able to do that with no problem, even if it is outside of their comfort bubble.

    Post # 12
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I originally voted with others my age, but that was before I saw that most of them won’t have dates – if I didn’t have a date, I think I’d be more comfortable seated with my parents.

    Post # 13
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think you have to think about the personalities of these individuals (so were you place them may differ for different people).

    If they are really outgoing and can typically talk to / make friends with anyone, then put them at a table with other young adults.  But if they are normally shy or more reserved until they really know someone well, they’re probably going to be more comfortable sitting with their parents.  Those with dates should be fine at a table with other young adults either way, but you can also use these couples to make numbers work between young adult tables and parent tables.

    Post # 14
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I agree with FKMM – think of their personalities – I am outgoing and love meeting new people and so I chose sit with people my age because I would want to meet some friends I could dance all night with ๐Ÿ˜‰ I doubt my parents would be doing that!

    But I could see how people with more introverted personalities would want to sit with the people they know even if they are older.

    Post # 15
    16216 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’ve been seated at the “young adult” tables before instead of with my parents, and it was always really awkward because it seemed the other “young adults” all knew each other–went to college together, etc.

    I’d much rather be with my family. I’m not too cool to be seen hanging with my parents, hehe. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 16
    2462 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i think it also depends on whether they are out of towners or live somewhere different from their parents. fi and i went to a wedding a couple years ago that my whole family went to, and they sat me and my fi, my bro and sil, and parents all at different tables. and it sucked, bc we all lived in different parts of the country and just wanted to sit together. they were trying to be clever and seat us with people they thought we’d like, but really i just wanted to talk to my family…but then again, i’m kinda a mommy-and-daddy’s girl, so i like being with my fam ๐Ÿ˜‰

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