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So I finally sat down with my parents last night to go over the seating arrangements at the wedding so I can start to make my place cards.  Well, I know according to chinese tradition, it is supposed to be family seated first and the more distant you are the further back you go.  Well here's the problem.  I have a table that currently holds my friends (which I'm only having one table of because there's simply no more room) and I had seated them at the table right behind the Head Table.  So they are table #2, if you will.  My FI and I will be sitting at a Dais so it will just be the two of us and we would love for our friends to be close so we can chat, dance and booze with them.  Well my parents had other ideas.  They wanted me toput that table last and move my cousin's uncle's dad's son's grandchild (exaggerating, but they are that distant) to the front while my "friends" sit at the end because "that's the way things are done."  Needless to say this turned into a whole fight.  My bottom line is if I am only having one table (which also consists of my MOH/my sister, my cousin, his wife, etc) of friends, shouldn't I be allowed to put them where I want?

And to get this out of the way, my parents are having a total of 5 tables at the wedding from their side, my FI and I are paying for the wedding in full ourselves, and yes, these are the same parents that offered my hotel room for my cousin to stay at the night of our wedding. 

Thoughts anyone?  Is it just me?!

seriously, i don't understand why seating is such a big deal!  we went to a wedding, there were a total of 8 of us from the groom's side, and my family complained the entire time that they weren't sitting right up front.....I mean, we were right in the middle of the room!  for our wedding, we thankfully have more of a circle, and everyone will be spread out more by age group than anything.  my friends will be closer to the bar/dj/dance floor than others....anyway, tell them thats the way you want it!  and no way on the hotel room.....it is beyond rude that they would even think that was okay!!!  is this person an adult?

I say seat them next to you especially since it includes the MOH.  Just let your parents know that it is disrespectful to have your MOH who is doing so much for you and expending so much $ so far away and you want her with friends so that she can enjoy the day to its utmost.  If that doesn't work just seat them they way you want and don't tell your parents until they see the seating chart.  Do you think they would really make a big scene on the day fo the wedding in front of all of those people.

LOL I like tberry's idea...make the seating arrangements and worry about it later!  I just might do that!  The funny part is the room isn't even that big!  We can clearly see the last person sitting at the last table at the venue because it is that cozy...but apparently that's not good enough.

And to humor you all, my mom gave me crap for seating my younger cousins (age 9-16) so far away from their parents.  The ironic part is I originally had them seated at the head table WITH their parents, but mom decided kids could not sit at the head table, so I was the one that got in trouble for her splitting the kids from the parents...go figure! 

As far as whether or not it's worth fighting IndianBride, I'm not quite sure what's worth it and what's not anymore...I'm so darn tired to be honest...parents, just gotta love em.