Post # 1
I need a little direction. I am on the “fence” about doing a seating chart. I have step parents upon step parents. I am not complaining, I am very thankful for all of my immediate family. So anywho what are the pros and cons of a seating chart.
Post # 3
We were positive we weren’t going to have one…that is until we went to a wedding of a high school friend of mine and there was no seating chart. Everybody was super awkward about figuring out where to sit and I ended up next to my mom’s gyno. Went to another one recently and again everybody was just very awkard about figuring out where to sit. Everybody just kind of stood there for a little bit. We’re not having a long “dinner time” anyway so I think it’ll be fine to just tell everybody what table they are at and that way they also have a place to put their stuff (purses, shoes, etc).
ETA: I will also say though that we have been to a wedding that had no seating chart and it worked out wonderfully and we’ve also been to a wedding that did have a seating chart and didn’t really like it because the dinner time was super long and we were stuck with all of these randos instead of chatting with the people we knew
Post # 4
@MrsFeatherbottom: Thank you for the input. I’m probably just being lazy and don’t feel like dealing with it. I think we will go with tables number for people at the least.
Post # 5
Admittedly, I’m a divorcee who is lucky enough to have found THE ONE this time around…
When my ex and I married we did not have a seating chart. I was very ademant about not having one. I was so sure that it would be far more respectable to let “grown ups” sit where they want. Well, as it turned out, most of my close friends ended up being “stuck” in the back of the venue and my Great Aunt who I have only met once ended up sitting right next to our table. The problem with that is that the best man’s wife and sons were also in the back of the room while my Great Aunt (one of those obligatory invites) was front and center. Not to mention my second cousin (her son) is retarded and requires full-time supervision. The people we wanted to sit up front weren’t there and my cousin who obviously can’t help being born that way made these loud sounds like a wookie during all the speeches. We smiled but in hindsight – HAVE A CHART! It can also help those singletons who will feel spiteful for being stuck at a table in which they know nobody and have nothing in common with. It’s helpful to sprinkle single folks in with other single folks that they may have things in common with! Again, HAVE A CHART! 🙂 Godspeed – get it done!
Worth noting – I would recommend that once you “assign” seats that you can let people know that you won’t frown upon mutual seat-swap assignments. And the previous poster is right – I went to a wedding recently and stood around wondering where to sit!
Post # 6
I suggest at least doing table assignments. Most adults are mature/intelligent enough to figure out who is sitting next to who once they get there. I’ve been to weddings where the lack of direction with regard to seating was confusing. We ended up with 13 people at our table of 10!
Our wedding will blend two very distinct cultures and 2 languages. I did table assignments in a way that those who only speak one of the 2 languages aren’t sitting with those who speak the other language. Also, I was lucky enough to be able to arrange the drinkers together and the non-drinkers together.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! Really appreciate all the input! Seating chart it is. 🙂
Post # 8
We did assigned tables, but not assigned seats. Still provides some structure but it’s not as stressful for you. 🙂