Post # 1
I’m dreading making my seating chart. We’ll have between 75 & 100 guests. My family is beyond disfunctional…too much to explain right now.
I’m wondering when I should start (obviously I’m way early right now) – should I start placing people as a I get RSVP’s, should I have a mock plan based on the guest list and then shift if people decline? Should I wait until I get all my RSVP’s….
The seating chart probably stresses me out more than anything else about the wedding planning…
Post # 3
If you’re anything like me, you probably already have a vague idea of who can sit with who, people that need to stay separated, etc. personally I recommend waiting until you have all of your rsvps back, so it doesn’t change on you mid-way through. I saw an idea on Pinterest where you write all your guests names on seperate sticky notes, and then have a poster board showing your tables. Then you can play around with placing the sticky notes at different tables until you find a configuration you like. Hope that helps!
ETA: if your wedding date above is accurate I would absolutely wait. A lot can change almost a year.
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: I would wait until you have all of the RSVP’s or at least most of them.
It’s also good to wait until you know how many tables, and how many people per table (I didn’t get the definite number of tables until 3 months before my wedding).
If your family is as dysfunction as it seems (based on your stress level) then a lot could happen and/or change in a year, and alliances could shift (mini lol).
If it helps, I can relate at least on a small level since my FI & I are only have 2 tables with assigned seating for our immediate family & spouses. So far, one of my sisters can’t get along with ANYBODY & may “refuse to sit there, if x, x, & x, sit at that table.” So rude…
With her attitude, she is going to end up sitting on the floor.
Post # 5
I voted for wait till you get all your RSVPs, but I’ve done a bit of both. I have about 25% of RSVPs back now (the wedding’s in mid September) and I have made a draft seeting plan, very rough, definately not the final one but sort of grouping people by age and who I think they’ll get on with. I’m not going to do any more on it until I have the rest of the RSVPs though.
Post # 6
@Snapdragon2804: I saw this too! I love it – I’m totally going to be doing this before I make my pretty chart for the reception.
I have tried using the online feature on The Knot and found it very frustrating to use.
Post # 7
I waited until I had them all. I didn’t want to keep redoing it as we got RSVPs in.
Post # 8
I’m actually doing (and voted for) the charts early. Well I’m doing mine as the invitations are going out, so not too early. I’ve already made a template for both placecards and table chart. I figured it’s easier to just delete names as regrets come in than to cram together everything in a day once everything is in. I’m planning to adjust people as necessary at tables as the RSVPs come in. I’ve also invested my mom’s help with this to save me some stress and I personally don’t have a preference where people sit or with whom. I’m a planner type A, so this is easier for me. I hate doing things last minute.
Post # 9
I’ve made three seating charts – all in different configurations as our space is very small. I just cant help it!!