Seating chart dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we split up the bridal party to avoid issues with one girl?
    Yes, you should separate the BP, 2 bridal party members at each table : (10 votes)
    56 %
    No, just suck it up, you and your friends should just deal with her obnoxiousness : (7 votes)
    39 %
    I have a better idea! (Do tell!) : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    3841 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @gingerkitten:   I voted to split up the bridal party.  We have a similar issue and are going to seat people without regard to bridal party.  

    Post # 4
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @gingerkitten:  I think, if you’re not having a head table, then the overriding principle should be that every guest is seated with people they are comfortable with. If the bridal party altogether would be uncomfortable, then split them up.

    I wouldn’t worry about the photo opportunity. That’s less important than your guests’ comfort. There will be lots of photos of the bridal party anyway.

    Since your reception is so small anyway, I say spread them out, and sit the obnoxious gf near your great aunt.

    Post # 5
    585 posts
    Busy bee

    Generally (generally) the headtable is rectangular. This allows the groomsmen and their dates to sit on the side of the groom, and the BP and their dates to sit on the side of the bride..with the couple in the middle. If you are able to do it this way, you can sit the GF on the far end of the table. Hopefully, even if she is blabbing away, your BP can tollerate her from a distance. Guys are usually better at (pretending) to put up with crazy-girl syndrome and so they hopefully will mind less? 

    Otherwise I second @aussiemum1248:  , it’s more important for your guest’s comfort than a photo op. 

    Post # 7
    39 posts
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I dunno what the usual ettiquite is where you live but here no one would expect the gfs or bfs of bridal party members to be seated with them. Here the bridal party table is just the bridal party, couldnt you do that and stick the annoying gf with the aunt who will tell her to shutup?

    Post # 8
    3433 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    I had a very awkward bridal party in that it was my brothers (recently divorced) ex wife and his new girlfriend plus my sister who doesn’t get along with either of them… Looooooong story short, a sweetheart table was a great choice for us, I highly recommend it!

    Post # 9
    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @hamobride:  +1. I agree!  Where I live dates/spouses never sit at the bridal party table. It is only for the bridal party

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