Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I would love to have a table with the whole bridal party, so they can socialize, etc during the 3 hour dinner. However, we (and the rest of the BP) don’t like the girlfriend of one of his groomsmen. She is very loud and has a tendency to monopolize conversations. I know I can’t separate her from her boyfriend, so how do I save the rest of the BP from her antics? Should we split up the bridal party (keeping couples together) for the sake of my sanity and theirs? I have a very direct great aunt who won’t hesitate to tell this girl to shut up, so maybe we could put her at her table. It just seems a shame to miss a good photo op and otherwise great fun by splitting up the BP. (FI and I will be rotating from table to table, spending equal time at each. 3 tables of 8-10).
Post # 3
@gingerkitten: I voted to split up the bridal party. We have a similar issue and are going to seat people without regard to bridal party.
Post # 4
@gingerkitten: I think, if you’re not having a head table, then the overriding principle should be that every guest is seated with people they are comfortable with. If the bridal party altogether would be uncomfortable, then split them up.
I wouldn’t worry about the photo opportunity. That’s less important than your guests’ comfort. There will be lots of photos of the bridal party anyway.
Since your reception is so small anyway, I say spread them out, and sit the obnoxious gf near your great aunt.
Post # 5
Generally (generally) the headtable is rectangular. This allows the groomsmen and their dates to sit on the side of the groom, and the BP and their dates to sit on the side of the bride..with the couple in the middle. If you are able to do it this way, you can sit the GF on the far end of the table. Hopefully, even if she is blabbing away, your BP can tollerate her from a distance. Guys are usually better at (pretending) to put up with crazy-girl syndrome and so they hopefully will mind less?
Otherwise I second @aussiemum1248: , it’s more important for your guest’s comfort than a photo op.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
@jgtexas22: The only tables available at our venue are circular. I agree, if we could have rectangular tables, it would be much less of an issue.
My biggest issue with splitting up the bridal party is that everyone else attending is our relatives, who are all older. I’m not saying they are incapable of polite conversation with people they don’t know, but 3 hours is a very long time to conduct small talk, which is why I’m waffling.
I already have to “suck it up” to have her around on tours all week, so I’m sure I’ll be a bit sick of sucking. 😛
It’s kind of a no-win situation, in my opinion! I guess i just have to determine what the better lose is. Maybe I should ask the other BP members what they would prefer- dinner with those they know, but some they don’t like, or dinner with people they don’t know at all. I think that asking them is probably the best way to make them the most comfortable, which as @aussiemum1248: said, is my responsibility as a host. Don’t know why I didn’t consider that, before!
Post # 7
I dunno what the usual ettiquite is where you live but here no one would expect the gfs or bfs of bridal party members to be seated with them. Here the bridal party table is just the bridal party, couldnt you do that and stick the annoying gf with the aunt who will tell her to shutup?
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I had a very awkward bridal party in that it was my brothers (recently divorced) ex wife and his new girlfriend plus my sister who doesn’t get along with either of them… Looooooong story short, a sweetheart table was a great choice for us, I highly recommend it!
Post # 9
@hamobride: +1. I agree! Where I live dates/spouses never sit at the bridal party table. It is only for the bridal party