Post # 1
I have ~110 people coming to the wedding. We plan on putting out 15 tables (that is all that will fit). This is 120 seats. I never planned on doing a seating chart, but I think it might make things more convienient for the guests. What would you do? How do you feel about seating charts as a guest? I’ve never been to a wedding with assigned seating.
Do you regret having/not having one? I don’t want my guests to be uncomfortably looking for somewhere to sit, but I also don’t want to force them to sit where they don’t want to.
Post # 2
Definitely do a seating chart! Easpecially since you would have so few extra seats. It’s one of the few things that is super clear in most wedding polls/advice. Guests prefer to have a seating chart. It makes things easier for them. It gets them into seats faster. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re in high school and don’t know where to sit at lunch. And you get awkward groupings when there aren’t enough spaces at any one table. People will start pulling place setting from one table and crowding into another so that they don’t have to sit at a table where they don’t know anyone. It goes on and on. There is no disadvantage to doing a seating chart (other than you spending an hour or two putting it together) and there are tons of disadvantage to not doing a seating chart. So do it. Your guests will thank you.
Post # 3
I hate not having assigned seating. You get some tables with 10 people, some with 4, bigger groups that come in late that might not be able to sit together, etc.
Post # 4
I had a seating chart because we served a plated dinner and guests chose their entree beforehand. So the wait staff had to have a copy so they would know what plate went where.
Post # 5
As an introvert I would have a really hard time without a seating chart unless it was a cocktail (i.e. mostly standing) reception or I knew most everyone there. My husband inititally wanted no seating chart so people could mingle, but we had such a varied set of guests that without a seating chart it could have been super awkward with random groupings. Even though making a seating chart can be kind of a pain I was able to put guests with people they already knew or with people I thought they would like. I felt much less stressed knowing that the priest wasn’t going to wind up sitting with my husband’s playboy groomsman and my grandmother wasn’t going to talk the ear off some of our friends 🙂
Post # 6
No seating chart sounds like a clusterfuck.
Post # 7
I had to have assigned seating as we had a pre-selected plated meal.
As a guest, I hate events that are free-for-all seating. You’ll end up with people left out, over crowded tables etc.
Do the chart, it’s worth the hassle!
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice guys. All good points. I think I’ll put a chart together this week.
Post # 9
I put a lot of thought into my seating chart and while I didn’t know it on the day, the only table of guests who moved their seating places around were those aged 65+ but I thought hard about about who’s a good mixer, who knew who and who HAD to sit next to their partner etc.
Post # 10
You can also assign tables instead of every seat if you’d like. We did that for our wedding (we had 42 guests).
Post # 11
We’re having one as we’ve got friends and family from different areas of our lives and want to make sure that everyone is with someone they’d get on with.
Once people have eaten, it’s fair game to mingle and sit wherever. (we’re having between 60-70 guests)
Post # 12
It’s too much of a mess, if you have different sized tables. We did 8s and 10s. If there are 2 groups of 5s, they might each head to a table for 8, instead of them both sitting at a table for 10, since people tend to gravitate to the empty tables first.
We did escort cards for table assignments, at my daughter’s wedding, of only 95 guests. It was important, because of the limited room space, and that fact that we wanted the 4 tables that held the bridal party men and women, and the bride and groom’s parents, to be closest to the sweetheart table.
Post # 13
I had the exact same number of guests at my wedding last year and I didn’t have a seating chart. It was a seated dinner with dancing. Nobody had a problem. Evertone sorted themselves fine. I say no, less stress for you and everyone can sit where they want. 🙂
i just had 2 tables reserved near the front for imediate family. 🙂 good luck!