Post # 1
I cannot decide if we should do a seating chart or not for our reception. I’ve heard horror stories of receptions where 2 people are sitting at one table, and 15 chairs are shoved around another table meant for 8.
What are you ladies doing? And why?
Post # 3
I can’t wait to see the results from this! I’m really not sure what I want to do, either!
Post # 4
We didn’t have a seating chart. We also had a very small number of people that came though (about 40).
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
We’re doing it to avoid the middle school “omg where do I sit” thing. There’ll be some cliquey groups attending and then a lot of couples who don’t know each other, so I really don’t want to have one quiet end of a table and then a completely loud one. So to make everyone comfortable, we’re using a chart.
Post # 6
As much of a pain in the butt as it’s going to be, I think we are going to end up doing it. I’ve only been to one wedding without table assignments and it was totally a mad dash to the tables so people could sit with certain people and not others – it was kind of awkward. Plus we have groups of family members that need to sit together, etc. I know on the day of it’s not my problem and I won’t care about where people are sitting, who doesn’t like their table, etc., but I think we’re just gonna suck it up and do it. Our venue is kind of a weirdly layed out space, too – there will be different rooms and stuff and, terrible as this sounds, certain people rank higher than others and will be seated in the room with us and other people are gonna have to get shoved in the other room.
Post # 7
we’re doing one. my fi wanted to, i didn’t, and it was one of those “pick your battle” kind of things so i let him win. also, he promised to help A LOT with the seating chart. my brother didn’t have a seating chart at his wedding, and it was a little over 200. they reserved seats for important family members (even though people stole those seats), it still turned out fine.
Post # 8
If we have long tables or banquet style seating, I don’t see the need. If we have smaller tables that can only seat eight or so, maybe. It’s one of those things about weddings that makes me go “Really? Seriously, you can’t seat yourself without it being a problem?” Seating charts, floral centerpieces, and bridal party clothes are on my list of “Make somebody else deal with it.” 😛
Post # 9
I am in the same situation as artbee my fiancé wants it and I don’t. He thinks that things would be too crazy otherwise. He also promised to do all of the charting with minimal help from me which is great! We’ll see!
Post # 10
im more into open seating. my family is more laid back and it would cause too much fuss to assign people.
Post # 11
I do think it can be awkward without a seating chart for guests who don’t know many other guests or for large groups, or unusual table setups. Even for a traditional setup, it is so awkward sometimes trying to get seats with people you want to sit with. I just came from a couple of holiday parties at work where we all picked our seats for the dinner, and it was like a mad rush to sit with people you like and avoid those you don’t.
For our wedding, we are having a dinner for 75 guests in one room and will assign people to tables but not to specific seats at that table.
Post # 12
We’re having a strolling type of reception with only a few large round tables, several pub tables, 4 tops, 2 tops, etc. We’re not doing a seating chart. These people are adults and should be able to figure it out.
Post # 13
We are assigning tables, but not actual seats. We don’t want to do open seating because we have around 200 people coming, and I wouldn’t want to end up having couples or families have to split up or want to leave because they got there last and there was only one chair at a few different tables open.
Post # 14
I agree with Minutiae that this falls into the someone else can worry about it. I will have a smaller wedding and I think we can all play nice and seat ourselves. Hope I am not kidding myself 🙂
Post # 15
I personally feel like it is another responsibility of the couple for your guest’s experience. I personally know that I would not want to be scrapping for seats at a formal event. I think that guests need direction, plain and simple. The same way you prepare them for cocktail style reception, or outdoor reception, suggest accomodations, OOT bags, etc, all things that would be easier to avoid, but is nice to do.
Besides, what about the single people that come and take a seat, leaving one empty seat at a table that is set for an even number. Then you have a bunch of tables with single empty seats and couples that will be split, b/c their table is one short. Should they ask the single person to get up so they can sit together? Or, you realize their is no specific tables, so you rush to leave your coat/purse to ensure you have a seat.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I don’t see it as guests aren’t “adult” enough to find a seat. It’s just a courtesy. People have different conversational needs. Putting all the loudmouths together is a disaster. The idea is to spread the conversation starters out so that everyone enjoys themselves.