Post # 1
There will be about 200 guests. Buffet dinner. My Future Mother-In-Law is insisting that i have open seating and let my guests choose where to sit. I am really torn with this. I can see it as being another expense bc i will then have to tell my venue to set up extra tables and place settings. plus, that means more centerpieces. I also feel i know my guests well enough to know who they would choose to sit with anyway. Yet, if i choose to make a seating chart thats more work and time consuming. Plus i would have to buy materials and make the cards myself.
What are you doing for your wedding? how should i tell my fiances mother if i decide to go with assigned seating? I dont want to upset her. I also do not want any of my quests to feel uncomfortable by making them sit where i want them to. HELP!!
Post # 3
I’m actually going through the same thing…..I have 220 guest that will be at the wedding, with a buffet style reception. Originally, I was going to do assigned seating with place cards……But, it was just too much……Trying to figure out who sits where and getting everyone’s names together……
We decided today to just let there be open seating and everyone can sit where they want. With the exception of the reserved tables. I think it will turn out just fine and it saves me from added stress
Post # 4
I thought I’d just go the easy route and do open seating, but the closer I got to my wedding, the more I worried that people would end up getting separated from their guests etc. So in the end, I chose to assign tables. That allowed me to NOT have to choose who sat next to who, but still be able to group people together with some common interests – language, game, church, etc. It was at times a frustration, but everyone was thrilled with how they were seated and things went very smoothly. We only had 76 people at ours and it was buffet style.
Post # 5
I would probably choose to do assigned tables for plated meal and open seating for buffet.
Post # 6
weddings in my “circle” are always open seating.
Post # 7
I am pro-assigned seating unless someone is having a very small guest list (50 and under). I think immediate family should be ensured tables close to the dance floor and close to the head table. I’d be afraid that some of my closest people would end up towards the back if there were no assigned seating- also as others said, you want to make sure people will get seated with people that they like and enjoy.
Post # 8
Every wedding I have been to has been open-seating. And I really don’t like it. Especially if i arrive later than most people and end up stting with people i really don’t care for, or don’t know at all. I know that can happen sometimes even with assigned seating, but usually you’re grouped with people you know/like.
Post # 9
I know how you feel. I want to do open seating but I’m worried that if I do I’ll need more tables (which the venue doesn’t have so I run the risk of people not finding a place to sit!).
Post # 10
I am doing assigned tables also. In my family its weird, but FILS its normal. We are having 200 ish also, and feel better about the flow, making sure most seats are filled, and also we have 2 people at lest in wheel chairs and need to make sure they are accomedated.
Post # 11
My vote is for assigned seats. I’ve only been to a handful of weddings, but half were buffet half were not, all were assigned. I’m also very OCD and I can’t imagine planning a wedding w/o a seating plan, but that’s just the crazy in me 🙂
Post # 12
DO NOT DO OPEN SEATING!! It turns into chaos, especially with a larger party. You can still do buffet, that doesn’t matter, but definitely do assigned seats. We went to a wedding last year with open seating and we ended up sitting with some weird people we didn’t like very much in the way back by the buffet, as opposed to with our friends up by the dance floor. It was a bummer.
Post # 13
With that size wedding I would do assigned seating.
Post # 14
Assigned tables.. at minimum.
Weddings with open seating, especially with a lot of people turn into a huge confusing mess. People are wandering around.. trying to switch seats bc they have a party of 4, but the only open seating is for 2 seats.
Post # 15
Open seating with a wedding of your size (around 200 or larger) sounds like a NIGHTMARE to me. I’d say you at least need to do assigned tables, otherwise you may end up dealing with some unnecessary chaos during the reception. I think the time spent planning the seating is more than worth it to have a smooth and enjoyable experience for everyone the day of.
Post # 16
I would at least assign tables to people. No need to assign a specific seat, but it can get confusing and awkward with everyone scrambling to find a seat, maybe ending up with people they don’t know, etc.