Weddingbee boards

Hello All,

Our seating chart is 99.99% DONE...with one small issue...my cousin. 

Cousin "R" was married for 3 years until this July...when his wife left him.  He has been (understandably) very upset since this happened and his attendence at our wedding has been somewhat up in the air.  The issue is that his wife left because he has a drug and alcohal problem.  This is where the issue of seating comes into play. 

Our venue has a large first floor and a balcony above.  We have put most of the young and/or single cousins and friends in the balcony so that they can have a high-energy party like space.  The downstairs will be more of the older people, attendents, aunts and uncles and cousins with young children. 

So,

Should I put cousin "R" downstairs with his parents or upstairs with his close cousins?

Downstairs- He would be sitting with his mom and step dad at a table with other aunts, cousins and their kids.  He may feel more incontrol at this table because it will not be as roudy, but we risk him getting out of control around kids

Upstairs- He would be at a table with his close cousins, who would be a great source of love and support for him.  Two of which have been struggling with their own ex-partner issues this year, but who also have alcohal issues and could fuel his drinking and potential drug use. 

There are pros and cons to both. 

What do you bees think? 

I would put him upstairs with his close cousins.

Thanks all for the advice.  You have confirmed what I was thinking, but I just wanted to see what another perspective would say.  @daydreamwanderer, I think asking his or his parents opinion would be good.  I may contact his mom today and see what she says.  Thank so much for your opinions!  It's good to know I'm on the same page as others!