(Closed) Seating chart? really?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it depends on what type of reception you’re having. I’m doing a seating chart because I’m serving a sit down meal with different entree choices. The servers need to know where to bring each dish.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

It depends on the formality of your wedding.  

If you’re having a buffet, it shouldn’t matter.  If you’re having a pre-selected meal choice on the RSVP, you’ll need a seating chart, and provide that to your caterer. 

Also, a reason people like seating charts is that you can control where people are placed – ex: your two aunts hate your grandma’s sister, or something like that.  The two aunts are at one table, and the grandma’s sister is at a table across the room.   It also makes sure all of your tables are taken up.  If you don’t do a chart, people won’t fill the tables completely, because there will be 1-2 seats left at a table, and they “want” to sit with their husband and kids.  

It just makes stuff easier!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I find it uncomfortable and confusing to try to find a seat for my family at an event, where there are no table assignations.  While I don’t need someone to micromanage my exact seat, I like to not stress that I have a place to sit where there is room for my whole family (FI and kids) and other people we know to talk to.   

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

im just doing table arrangements… they can pick their own seat but i want the tables some what organized. i dont want to hear- fiance’s dad’s family had the best “seats” or brides family is not mixed up enough. or lord knows what else someone in the inlaw family would say… and since our  table numbers wont be numbers but names of cars people cant feel like they are at a bad “number”table..

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I completely understand that seating charts are a royal pain in the butt. This is a project that I am despising. However…it does help for preventing any awkwardness. I went to one wedding where I knew a few other people there, but they had already filled up their table. My FI and I were stuck at a table with some older people. It wasn’t very much fun (plus, one of them made a rude comment towards me, so that didn’t help). It feels like the school cafeteria all over again.

  Now, if you’re having a reception where everybody knows everybody, I would think it’s okay.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People also leave 1 seat between couples or groups; there might be 2 seats empty at 2 different tables, but a family of 4 is looking for a place to sit.

It wastes a lot of time when you don’t have a seating chart.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not a fan.  But you could have a table or two near the front reserved for your family members or something.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really hate having to guess that there will be a spae for me and my party. It’s like being back in middle school and wandering around, having to ask guests wh arrived first if we can sit at their table, just so awkward. I really really appreciate when at leasts the tables are assigned rather than having to guess.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As a guest I REALLY appreciate a seating chart.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

make one, make one, make one. While I believe that we’re all adults and can pick a seat, it makes it so much easier to have one assigned. you know your guests and can seat them with friends. It alleviates the stress and makes the whole night smoother.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

unless its a informal bbq, for me its a absolute yes!  i cant stand having to wander looking for a seat or asking people if i can sit with them/move chairs around – it reminds me of highschool

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A seating chart also avoids that high school behavior where people tip up the chairs to save them for someone else and you can hardly get through between tables.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know that some brides want to be casual about this sort of thing but as a guest I really appreciate an assigned table at the very least because otherwise it’s chaotic and people start pulling chairs to other tables because they want to sit with a certain group.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m the most informal person ever… and I came to the conclusion that I have to assign tables. 

I love everyone who is invited, but many of them havne’t met each other – even though I *know* they will get on like gang busters. Some of the ones who have met each other don’t like each other. 

In order to make sure that people meet other interesting and awesome people without being stuck around someone that they don’t like, I’m assigning tables. Its maddening, trying to make sure that people are sitting with someone they know and some one they don’t know but I think they will like meeting. And then figuring out who will sit at our table (my parents are divorced and both have SOs, tables at our venue seat six.)

Crazy making and silly? yes. Still a good idea? Yep. 

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