Post # 1
Ughhhh I just have to vent…
FI and I are having a laid back BBQ reception at a venue on the water. He’s really big about keeping it informal, not stuffy, not too traditional, etc. I want those things too.
But I believe that a seating chart will be the best plan, because it will allow us to put people who we know will get along with each other, together.
To me, it’s common sense. After all, I don’t want his parents’ 50-something conservative friends sitting next to my gay best friend and his boyfriend, etc.
FI is being really unreasonable, saying this is going to change the entire vibe and people should be able to sit where they want.
How do I get it across to him that a seating chart doesn’t change anything…it only makes for a better experience for everyone involved!?
I tried to explain to him that people will all arrive at the same time (we are transporting everyone in a big bus) and stake claim on a seat. And what happens when a 60 year old who doesn’t know anyone else ends up at the college student table, etc?
I want to get it across that if our guests are having the best time they possibly can (no one feeling awkward, everyone having good conversation, etc) then we will therefore have the best time WE possibly can because we won’t be worrying!
Aghhhh he is not budging and I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
I was recently at a wedding with no seating chart and it was a mess. Half the tables were empty, while the others had twice as many people as they should. People can always move around once the reception gets going, but a seating chart is really the best option usually, IMO.
Post # 4
I totally agree with you, not having at least a guideline of which table to be seated will cause chaos, people wont know where to go, where to sit, who to sit with, it will be a mess. I wouldn’t necessarily do a placecard for each seat, but I would at least do escort cards telling people which table they should go to.
Post # 5
Instead of putting everyone in assigned seats, can you have categories of tables? Like “friends of bride and groom”, “bride’s family”, and “groom’s family”. Then, you don’t have to worry about clashing people sitting together (hopefully), but it gives your guests some flexibility about where to sit.
Post # 6
My friend didn’t have a seating chart or head table. By the time her and the groom got to the reception, all the good seats in the shade were taken and they were stuck with the crummy seats in the corner, in direct sunlight.
Post # 7
@SupermarketGirl: My friend was at a wedding with no seating chart. She and her husband had to sit at different tables!!! I really like
Post # 8
I like PP’s idea of designated tables!
Post # 9
A bit off topic, but are anyone else’s posts coming out with no spaces? The formatting looks terrible, but I can’t fix it!