(Closed) Seating chart woes

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Where should we seat Maggie?
    Seat her with family. : (24 votes)
    96 %
    Seat her with the frat. : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Tell your FMIL in advance that Maggie will be at her table for dinner. Don’t give any details as to other options that you chose not to take. Remind her gently but firmly that Maggie is expected to set aside any differences for the wedding and reception, including dinner, and that you expect all guests, including FMIL, to do the same.

    Post # 4
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Move FMIL to the frat table 😉

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Can FFIL talk to his wife and tell her to behave and mind her own business?

    Post # 8
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you are really worried you could mix family with other people (close friends?), have two family tables near the front. Put people together by common interests instead of relationships. I also think that the table will be big enough (and the centerpiece will probably block the view) of anyone on the other side of the table.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Maggie sounds sweet, and has the right attitude about your wedding. It would be so sad for her to be seated at the frat table. It would be like a punishment for no crime committed. And FMIL would be rewarded for possible bad behavior. My vote is for Maggie to sit with family. It is far from an easy decision when you’re right there in the feelings. One more thing to consider is this, what seating arrangement will cause tot the least stress? Good luck.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would seat her at the table. But have family members between them as a buffer. Fmil needs to grow the f up she doesn’t get to hate her husbands children. I would say have your Fi deal with her, and hopefully her husband can shut her bs down.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If you have a children’s table, seat her there.  She is acting like a child….

    If she pulls the “I’m not coming if…” nonsense, tell her you’ll miss her at the wedding.

    I am not having formal seating arrangements (not for this reason, but because I don’t want them).  Sit wherever you like with whoever you like!

    Grownups need to suck it up for and act like grownups.  It’s a day out of their life and it won’t kill them. 

     

     

    Post # 15
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    So one thing to keep in mind is that people get up and move around during a wedding. They really only sit together during the dinner. I was seated at the head table (SO of groomsman), ate dinner there, then moved around to different tables so I could talk to friends, or to rest a bit from dancing (at the table closest to the dance floor). So don’t expect people to return to the same table throughout the whole night. You are really only talking about them tolerating each other during dinner.

    Having said all that I think you should really mix your tables more. A wedding is about the blending of two families so you should give everyone the opportunity to meet other people. People will always ask each other “How do you know the bride/groom?” and having sat at tables with strangers- its kind of fun! I get to learn about another side of the bride/groom I didn’t know before.  I WILL find the people I know and love at a wedding and have plenty of time with them. So not sitting next to them for the dinner doesn’t mean I won’t get to spend time with them.

    So instead of your family table and his family table- mix the two tables so its half and half. People get to meet and get to know the other side of the family. Again I would try to sort the family members by interest- maybe don’t put the parents of the bride and groom together if they have nothing in common, but maybe an Aunt/Cousin should sit next to his family if they have the same interests.

    Mix your other tables too. Do half your college friends and half of his- etc.  That way everyone has someone they know at the table and someone they get to meet! 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee

    Sit with family!

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