(Closed) Seating Charts

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I hate going to weddings where there is just open seating. I would much rather have a seat reserved for me so I don’t have to walk around trying to find one.  If the bride and groom puts some thought into who would make interesting and fun tablemates, I think things run much more smoothly. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am assigning tables.  It helps prevent the awkwardness of not knowing where to sit if you are a guest.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

What about having the guests just assigned to tables? Then they could sit by whoever they want at that table and it would be a good compromise with your FI.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you should just go with it, and leave him out of it. Everyone will appreciate having at least assigned tables, instead of just wandering around like they are lost.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Another reason to do a seating chart is because otherwise some guests might not even be able to get seating together with their families. Then they’ll try and cram in extra seats at a table, etc. Any wedding I’ve been too without at least a table assignment has been pure utter chaos and frustration.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

I’m all for assigning tables and letting the guests choose the chair. I have been to countless events, where size is completely irrelevant, where open seating does not work at all and has been a complete madhouse. Some of things that happen with open seating that you cannot prevent are couples and families getting split up, some people save chairs for friends who never sit with them and then do not give up those chairs for any reason, even if it means the only other option is someone sitting on the floor. That type of setting where you have to ask if a seat is taken does not get any less awkward as an adult as it was in high school.

By having a seating arrangement, you not only keep certain guests away from each other who would not be comfortable sitting together and you make the guests feel like you actually care about their comfort and eliminates stress on everyone’s part. It is not taking people back to kindergarten at all and should not take much time if you know each of your guests and who they would be most comfortable sitting with.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

You’ll find a lot of opinions on this topic around the boards and the wedding-o-sphere, but the advice in general somewhat overwhelmingly leans toward guests finding it much more relaxed and comfortable to at least have tables assigned. If your FI thinks it’s too much work, then give him another job and do it yourself. Your guests will appreciate the extra effort to make them comfortable and at ease during the reception.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My opinion is that if you have round, separate tables it’s a good idea to assign guests to a particular table. I’m having long picnic style tables so people are going to choose their own seating cos it’ll be like one big table. If I was having seperate round tables I’d do a seating chart. It makes it easier for guests if they at least have a table they know they belong to.

Post # 12
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Newbee

This is an issue for us too!  I think we should at least set a chart for tables.  This matter just blew up for us yesterday because he still believes people have the right to choose where they want to sit and he has “NEVER been to a wedding where they told me where to sit”.  I beg to differ, but I really don’t know how far to actually worry about it.  I wanna make it down the aisle 🙂  If it were my decision, I would assign tables.  Good luck with your decision.  

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I say make the seating chart without your FI.  The vast majority of your guests will agree with you and be glad to be assigned to a table.  I really dislike open seating as a guest.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I went to my cousin’s wedding in May and it was very non-traditional. We were told that the seats we sat in at the ceremony were to be moved to the tables behind us as our reception seats. We ended up moving a few seats each just to be helpful. Unfortunately, it ended up being a free-for-all and a good handful of people had nowhere to sit and couldn’t even sit with their party. I do not recommend this.

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