Post # 1
Things with my seating charts were going pretty smoothly, but then I got to the next group of people to work on: my theatre group. This one is by far the largest group at the wedding… There are (at least) 45 of them coming. I’m hoping to fit them all into six tables of seven or eight each.
As with most groups, there are some people who like each other more than others, and there are a few people who really just don’t like others.
…And then there’s my friend (we’ll call him D) who has seriously dated no less than three of the women in the group, and the breakup was unpleasant each time (and really really REALLY unpleasant the last time… part of me is kind of worried that there will be a scene between them). Thus, I’m trying to avoid putting any of those four together. The problem is that the three girls are probably the least well-known in the group, and the people that they do know are mostly the same. I just can’t figure out how to divide everyone up. I’m about ready to just give up and elope.
Who else is having seating chart excitement?
Post # 3
No one else having any difficulty?
Post # 4
Heck yes! I’m at that point now and sooo tired of figuring out where to put people and not offend anyone. Since most of the guests are FH’s I am just figuring out who will be at the tables closest to our sweetheart and leaving the rest to FH. I can’t really guess at who gets along with who, so I’m hoping he’ll come up with a table plan for his friends/family.
Post # 5
@SimplyChic11: Yeah, I’m definitely leaving FI’s guests in his (possibly somewhat) capable hands.
I’ve decided I’m going to run by the seating charts for my theatre friends with my BFF from that group. He’s been part of it longer than I have, and he’s very aware of the various goings on in that group. He’ll be good at helping me out.
Post # 6
I’m having a hell of a time and I’m 5 months out still! Our venue is small and we had enough trouble just cutting down the list. We simply do not have the space to have guests for those who aren’t currently in relationships, so that means there are a few “singles” to seat. Fiance also has a grandfather that NO ONE wants to sit with (I feel badly about the whole situation, but I can’t do much about it) and FI’s parents want to sit with their friends, and not with relatives. So that also leaves 2 grandmothers who don’t know anyone else but the family, and the grandfather is the ex of one of the grandmothers and they can’t sit together. Well, when there are only 9 tables in the whole damned place, it’s tough!
So yes, in a nutshell, I totally hear ya. Good luck!!
Post # 7
I’m having the most trouble with FH’s immediate family. I told him I do not want them within one table away from us… but the only way we could do that without sticking his best friends in the corner is to have them in the corner due to the room set-up. :/
We’re trying to come up with a happy medium, most likely sticking the ‘maybe’ table of iffy RSVPs in the corner and his family behind his friend’s table, closer to our own.
It’s a headache and a half! I can say that I’m glad we’re doing a sweetheart table, I feel that cut out lot of drama because we can arrange everyone else around us how we want them. And no one will be starting in our general direction unless they absolutely want to. I hate set-ups where the bride and groom are in the middle of the room. I don’t want people watching me if someone drips out of my mouth ! lol. Not that this would happen but I’d feel terribly self-concious.
Post # 8
The hardest part was for that most of the guests I thought “I don’t want them to have to sit in the back” well… someone has to!
When I was talking through some family stuff with my mom she starts listing off people who should sit together and I finally had to cut her off like “mom, you realize these people are bringing their children as well which makes that a table of 13… we have to split them up” she was fine with it of course, but it was funny.
However… I still loved it! It was like a fun puzzle to fit everything together *just so*.
@Juliepants: I acutally wish we had more singles because there’s a number of tables (two or three?) one seat short, I could use the space fillers!
Post # 9
@Lexy: Do you want me to send one of mine? Haha, I always seem to have ONE single left to seat, not two. Also, our tables are squares of 8 – definitely noticible if I were to have a table of 7 and there’s no space for 9! People really need to be paired up and SOMEone has to sit next to that grandfather. :S
Post # 10
Hey – I actually was terrified that this process would be painful, but so far it has actually been a breeze.
My fiance suprised the heck out of me by searching online for a seating chart tool, which of course he found on Martha Stewart.com. I’m fairly certain that his former self would be cringing at the fact that he even went on this site, much less found something useful out of it. But I’m all about quick and easy these days, so I’m thrilled he did what he did, and he’s very happy aobut it too.
It does involve some setup, which my fiance did, so I don’t know the ins and outs of that part, but the tool itself is great. You can “group” people – i.e. HS friends, Extended Family, you can move people around in couples or families. I didn’t use all of the other tools, but if you mark someone as not coming, they automatically get unseated in the chart so you don’t forget to remove them later.
My fiance probably set it up in 20 mins and did his side in about 10. I did my side in about 15 mins, and just had to make a few tweaks as the RSVP’s came in, which took 3 minutes.
Check it out!