Post # 1
I’m just curious, as this is the topic of this week’s Knot’s special thread.
I have only been to one wedding where there was a seating chart. I was sat with my cousins (who I like) but at a table that was not full, so not with as many people as I would have liked. Of the 20+ weddings I have been to since and before then, 0 have had seating charts with the excpetion of speical tables (head table, and those reserved for close friends and family or dates of the wedding party)
I actually like pulling my own chair and deciding which of my relatives I will sit with. There are times when I need different types of conversation (if I need career advice, cousin B is awesome, as he works in the same sector in the same city, I may want to ask Uncle R about how his grandson is doing since I never get to see him ect) Also, with my group of friends, we are the worst possible people to have at a resteraunt as we constantly get up, and change seats so we can talk to who ever we are having the best conversation with that day.
For these reasons we are not having a seating chart. I am organized enough to do one, but I really dont want to feel like bridal dicator.
What are your opinions or thoughts on seating charts?
ETA- I’m not looking for suggestions, just trying to make conversation. Thanks everyone for their suggestions, but I’m really okay with my decision on this, and am very unlikely to change my mind.
Post # 3
I’ve been to weddings with them and without them. I personally loved the weddings we’ve been to with them as the bride and groom have always done a wonderful job or pairing us with other young couples and we make new friends!
The one wedding I went to without one we stayed after the cocktail hour a bit to finish a conversation and it was like being the last one to the lunch table in school… no chairs with your friends/family. We sat with 2 elderly couples who couldn’t hear us and their grandchildren. Not at all fun.
We are doing escort cards based solely on our perferences as a guest at other weddings we have been to. I always recommend them. It’s nice to meet new people and if there is someone specific you need to talk to during the wedding it can be done after dinner when people are visiting other tables.
Post # 4
I like a seating chart. My seat is reserved, and there’s no chance that DH and I won’t finagle two seats together!
Post # 5
You can always get up and mingle later, but I like the security of knowing that I have a reserved seat for dinner. And it was likely well-planned by the B&G as to who to seat me with.
Post # 6
I feel like having a seating chart doesn’t mean people can’t move from their designated spot…But I always think of HS cafeterias when thinking of free-for-all seating. I wouldn’t want to be that person who doesn’t know that many people and feels left out. No thanks.
Post # 7
@Misswhowedding: I would never recommend hosting a reception where each guest is not assigned strategically to a specific table.
An open seating plan will require you to have more tables and chairs available than you actually need simply to account for the fact that there will not be a sufficient number of seats remaining together at some of the tables to accommodate the groups, couples, or families who are last to be seated.
It helps to avoid confusion for your guests as well as the very unattractive and awkward (not to mention potentially hazardous) practice of guests “saving” seats for others by tilting chairs into the table (with the legs then sticking out, where they could potentially trip someone or become caught in other guests’ clothing.)
Guests are always free to mingle and talk with other guests following the formal portions of the evening, so no one will be prevented from catching up with others simply because they’re not seated with someone with whom they wish to interact.
Post # 8
I went to a friend’s wedding and some random couple snagged the last two seats at the table my other friends were at. My date and I ended up finding seats at the bride’s grandparent’s table with a couple of their older friends. They were very nice but I was a little bummed I didn’t get seated at the rowdy table! 😀
Post # 9
Agree to have them.
People arent restricted to stay in there seats all night. And as long as you select the right people to the table, it will work out well. Like the other person said, you dont want younglings with the 80 years olds that cant hear 🙂
Post # 10
I’ve never been to a wedding with a seating chart and I’ve been to some big weddings. We’ve never had a problem finding a table with chairs for us all. We’ve never had people standing around trying to figure things out. Also, there is very little after dinner conversation as everyone’s dancing or listening to the music and watching others dance. If you want to talk and mingle, that’s during dinner. We won’t be having a seating chart. I think they’re silly and more work than they’re worth.
Post # 11
@Brielle: Thanks, Brielle, but this really isn’t for me to make up my mind on the issue. I just wanted to see if other people would have the same response that people on the Knot did, and for the most part it matches up.
My friend and family group(s) have never had seating charts at weddings, and my local region does not seem to do them either. Its just something that isn’t done around here. It apparently is a big deal in other areas, which is cool, to each there own.
Post # 12
The one and only wedding I’ve been to without one ended up working out (I’m pretty social and had no problem talking to the other people at my table – even made friends I still talk to!) but it was incredibly awkward trying to FIND a seat. We went from table to table…being like, should we sit here? No…how about here? No…
At least assign people tables. It takes a lot of the thought process out of it and makes it more streamlined for your guests.
Post # 13
@Misswhowedding: I prefer a seating chart. Better to sit next to Uncle Fester than not be able to sit next to my date. 😉
Post # 14
@Misswhowedding: We are doing a full seat assignment – placecards at the tables – but based on your preference, I’d say assign just table numbers. That way people still have the option to sit next to a specific person at their table that they may have already been talking with and you can avoid the cafeteria-like search for a seat and ensure no one gets split from their group or date.