Post # 1
Seating charts/table designations are horrible to do. People don’t specify what they’re eating (2 steaks, 1 salmon but who wants what?), there are some people who only speak one language and it’s not English, some groups that are friends are a group of 12 when each table only seats 10, a couple brings their 3 children so that their whole nuclear family takes up half a table (5 people), people who check the child’s meal don’t bother to put their child’s name despite putting the spouse names and writing 3 will be in attendance (I guess children are nobodies to them but they’re $30+ to us for just chicken tenders, fries, fruit)…..
So, who else is stressed with table issues? What’s currently bothering you? Any brilliant breakthroughs or solutions?
Edit: The venue requires the number of meals per table ahead of time, I can’t have open seating. Also, open seating would be a mess here. Some people only speak one langague, and then there’s also a set of divorced parents with all their friends and family who can’t be anywhere near each other. Lots of different age groups as well and mixing them would not be that fun for guests who scramble to find one available seat.
Post # 3
Have open seating, then you don’t have to stress about it. This is what I am doing. We are having a buffet though, with a served dinner that could be kind of tricky.
Just remember after the meal people can move around and sit at other tables, they aren’t stuck in one seat all night.
Post # 4
If I had a group of 12 people that were friends I’d split them in half and make them socialize with 4 other people their age. Don’t stress too much, people are only really stuck in their seats during dinner. They’ll roam around after that.
Post # 5
Oh, I am stressed out about this (also plated, and required by the caterer/venue to have assigned seating finished by the week before!)
Just call people. You need to know, and once you know, life will be so much easier!
Post # 6
@ellabee I know I don’t WANT you to be stressed but it’s nice that someone else is feeling it too. Our wedding is this Saturday and since there are so many other loose ends I need to take care of I just told (yeah, no time for asking if it’s okay, just straight out told them) that I would give number of X food plates per table and that on the day of they could just figure it out with the guests who got what. I’m sure it won’t be that complicated for them.
I did think about calling people like you suggested and then I looked over who the confusing guests are and a few are out of the country. Nope, wasn’t going to run around figuring those out.
Post # 7
eesh I’m having the same issues!! in once case, FI’s aunt and uncle (who have three grown children, 2 of which were included on their invite) confused the sheat outta me. “3 respond yes, 2 chicken 1 haddock”. Okay cool – is that 3rd their child Sue or Joe?! No calling them – they don’t really talk to us. I also just had almost an entire table reply no, so now I have ONE couple to stuff somewhere else. I, too, cannot do open seating. At some point I think I might just say screw it, too bad for them. lol.
Post # 8
@sorrycharlie:🙂 IN the end people WILL reseat themselves, probably, and it will work out.
And if it doesn’t have someone else in charge during the wedding day (not you).
This is the worst part of the planning for me. Sigh.
You can do it!