Seating Ettiquette

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s fine. We put a lot of work into table assignments (who sat at a table together) but didn’t put much thought into where each of the tables would go. This was partially laziness and partially on purpose, so you don’t creat a heirarchy and make the people in the back feel third rate.

My husband and I sat with our best man/matron of honor and their families and we ended up in a corner! It was fine, we were at the table for all of 20 minutes to eat. I think the table closest to us was a group of my aunt’s family, who I see once a year at Thanksgiving. My dad and stepmom ended up on the other side of the room. Everyone was scattered all over the place. Nobody cared! As long as you put your tables together well, I don’t think it’s a problem where they go, physically in the room, unless there’s something like stairs or loud speakers to avoid with certain guests. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

nawella:  Usually parents sit closest to the head table, but it sounds like there is so much drama that you are doing what works the best for the situation at hand. If only people could get along 🙂

Post # 4
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d go person by person and think about whether they’d be offended.  At our wedding, nothing we did could have pleased my mother-in-law because the wedding was outside and that was the WORST for her.  Then the only way to make her happy would have been if she could have sat with us at our table…which was just the two of us.  SOOO we made sure she could see us from her table.  

So, make sure people who have strong preferences are accommodated as much as possible, and then just make sure you walk around and talk to everyone at their table.  We did that, and I know everyone appreciated it.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

seating arrangement is hard but I don’t think people will be offended.  I just made sure that the parents/closest immediate family (primary table 1 and 2 for my parents/family and his parents/family) are closest to us and the rest are just seating where is most convenient.  It’s not really that bad.  The middle/end of the night, everyone will be all dispersed, dancing, mingling that it won’t matter where they were sitting anyway.  I try to accomodate people with babies and try to keep people who know each other as closest to each as possible but at the end of it all, I’m just happy to have everyone seated!

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