Post # 1
My FI and I are debating seating arrangements for the reception. Our venue uses 10-person round tables as their main guest tables, although I just learned they got some new rectangle tables that can also seat 10. Our guests will all be at 10 person rounds. Since we want our wedding party members to get to sit with their dates, we don’t want a traditional head table. So, the way I see it, we have three options:
1) The sweetheart table. This idea doesn’t really appeal to my FI at all because he doesn’t like being the center of attention and feels like he would be uncomfortable. I tend to agree, although I’d be personally fine if we went this route. The added benefit is that if we sit at a sweetheart table, we don’t have to struggle with deciding who to sit with 🙂
2) At a regular round table for 10. Our wedding party has 8 people in it, not counting their dates, so, if we sit at a round table for 10 people, we would have to pick and choose among our wedding party members and not everyone would “get” to sit with us. This seems like it would be pretty tough. How would we choose which couples to include?
3) Put two of the rectangle tables together to accomodate the whole wedding party, their dates, and us. This way, we don’t have to choose who to sit with and our wedding party still gets to sit with their dates. But would it look weird to have guests at rounds, and us at a big, long rectangle?
As an aside, a friend suggested that we sit with our parents/siblings at a table for 10 and then seat the wedding party with their own friends at other tables. But our parents don’t get along the greatest and have already said they want to sit with their friends, so doing a 10 person family table just isn’t an option.
THANKS for your help!
Post # 3
My option isnt up there. At my wedding we will have a head table with Bride, groom, Moh, Best man, and both sets of the parents. The rest of the bridal party will sit together at a round table of 8, this way they can mingle more with their friends or dates.
Post # 4
Could you put 3 or more rectangle tables together to make a squarish shape? Have a nice centerpiece at that table and it could kind of be like having a larger round table.
Post # 5
For what it’s worth, I was just at a wedding with a sweetheart table and I don’t think anyone stared at them throughout dinner. I know the only time I paid attention to them was during the speeches. Therefore, I don’t think that having a sweetheart table means that you’ll totally be the center of attention the whole time. Other than the fact that it’s your wedding so you’ll be the center of attention at all times.
I’ve also been thinking about this and go back and forth between the sweetheart option and the sitting with our parents. It all depends on the table sizes at my venue. Otherwise, I find giant head tables really annoying. In the end, you really can only talk to the person on either side of you so it’s not like you’re making this giant inclusive space. But that’s just my opinion.
Post # 6
I said large head table, except we didn’t have everyone sit on just one side. Instead, we had everyone sitting all the way around. Then, people can talk to more than just the guests on each side of them.
Post # 7
We are sitting at a regular round table for ten. We have a huge wedding party so we decided that our table will have the best man, maid of honor and their dates and our siblings and their dates. that comes out to 10 people. that way it’s fair and no one in the bridal party feels slighted.
I will say that i was in a wedding not so long ago where they also sat at a regular table and picked single bridal party members to sit with them. I was not at that table but rather at a nearby table with my close friends and FI and I didn’t feels slighted at all. it was just logistics.
Post # 8
yep we ‘chose’ certain wedding party members to sit with us. The others were kinda all in separate groups so it was cool. The groomsman all sat together at a table next to us with their people and friends. My brothers sat with the cousins at another table. Some of the bridesmaids sat with us and our parents/grandparents all sat together and another table. Really its no big deal since you won’t be sitting there all night!
Post # 9
We are doing a Head Table with just US and both of our parents on each side of us! =)
Post # 10
I totally prefer a sweetheart table for two reasons:
1. It allows some time to just be alone together. The day will be so crazy and there will be so many people to talk to that it would be nice to have a few minutes just the two of us.
2. Being at a head table is no fun for your bridal party or their dates. We’ve all been there where we are the date of someone in the bridal party and you are forced to sit by yourself with a bunch of people you probably don’t know all that well. Or on the other side you are in the bridal party and you might not know the rest of the bridal party that well and you would so prefer to be sitting with your date.
We are doing a sweetheart table with two round tables on either side of us. One will be the bridesmaids and their dates and the other the groomsmen and their dates.
Post # 11
i really wanted to do a big head table with my whole wedding party and date – problem was not all my wedding party had dates and didnt want it to look weird or some of them feel alone up there so i ended up just having 6 of us up there. me and my husband, my MOH and her boyfriend and the best man and his wife – we had thought of putting parents up there but we thought they would prefer to be with their siblings and other family rather than sit us – we were up and down the whole time anyway.
i love the idea of a sweetheart table too but as much as i like a little bit of attention i didnt want that much attention on just the two of us as we are stuffing our faces haha.
Post # 12
I chose sweetheart table. We sat at one and we did not feel like the center of attention at all. Its not like the table is in the middle of the dance floor on its own. I really enjoyed being able to eat in peace with my husband and not having to talk to other people. It was one of the few times that my husband and I had alone time and I really enjoyed it!
Post # 13
You will hardly sit at your wedding reception, so don’t worry about being in the spotlight all night. We had a sweetheart table, but we were actually seated for 15 minutes, tops, including speeches and eating.
Post # 14
Honestly, with a sweetheart table I feel like it draws LESS attention to you. We’ll be doing one and I usually recommend them to my brides and grooms.
It gives you time to talk, to eat, and have some peace and enjoy the moment… but also allows you to get up and greet people whenever you want without feeling like you’re abandoning the rest of your table.
It makes it less awkward for the rest of your table during toasts – no one is taking loads of pictures of them trying to figure out how to look at you without makng a funny face 🙂
And with today’s families and bridal parties a lot of times it’s just easier!
Good luck 🙂
Post # 15
I am going to say Sweetheart table. My FI is also against it because he doesn’t want to be the center of attention, but previous posters are absolutely right. You’re not going to be sitting hardly at all and it takes away the stress of who to sit with. This way you eat real quick and circulate, giving equal time to all your guests!
Post # 16
I think your best bet is the sweetheart table. Like you, we wanted our wedding party to sit with dates and friends so we split them up and put them at the tables near to us. Like PPs have mentioned, no one starred at us other than the toasts and it was nice to have a few minutes to chat and take it all in. We spent most of dinner away from our table anyway so it worked out fine.