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Are you having kids at your wedding? Would it work to put familes with kids there? I don't know the drawback is if they have to watch their kids they can't also be involved in the wedding, but the kids themselves are less likely to care about what is going on.
I wouldn't put anyone drama prone there, cause you know they will likely cause a scene.
Are there any groups of college guy friends who wouldn't care if they saw your entrance and dances and everything? I would be PISSEDDDD if I got a gift and made a trip to a wedding and was tucked away behind a wall... Nobody puts baby in the corner!!! But seriously put the least-likely-to-care people there, I never get mad about things at weddings but that would actually bother me.
i think those are both great ideas. i'm the kinda person that wouldn't mind being put where i can plop down after dancing my hind end of and no one seeing me sweat to death. haha.
I also vote kids/teens if possible. Most of them couldn't give two-hoots if they see those things. You could even 'trick out' that area like it was supposed to be that way with some special favours or something geared towards them maybe?
I would just make sure Grandma and Grandpa, your favorite aunt, your closest cousins, etc. don't end up there. Friends from work, kids and teens, and people in general that you don't know as well are the ones that should be put there. I know it sounds bad, but as you said, someone has to sit there.
My preferences in order:
1. Squeeze 2 more tables into the main room until dinner and speeches are done. I would even use the dance floor if that is a better location and have the staff take down those tables after dinner, before the first dance. The people at those tables could be directed to the tables in the sunroom.
I would be upset if I couldn't see what was going on. I wouldn't say anything but I definitely would not be happy about it.
I don't think it is an issue not to see the dance floor.
2. Use mirrors creatively so people can see what is going on.
3. Seating the kids there might backfire as kids want to see what is happening. If they hear someone speaking and see everyone else looking in that direction, they will get up out of their chairs and move to where they can see. It will be challenging for their parents.
Hmm...It is hard to say not knowing your guest list but my friend had a similar problem so she put her FI's poker buddies behind the wall with cards and chips. (They said it was the best wedding they ever went to!) She sat their wives together in the main room everyone was more or less happy with the arrangement. Alternatives would be other board game type fun. Other entertainment besides you guys might help. Don't know your guests so I am not sure if that helps..
If you have a cake table, gift table, or favor table in the main area, could you switch things around? I don't think people would mind going into a semi-separate room for any of those things.
Kids table, definitely. I agree with PPs that I would be a bit miffed if I didn't get to see anything.
It wouldn't bother me if you sat me there, because I understand that someone has to be there. Your friends that have recently wed might also understand this and therefore not be bothered.
I'm not sure a kids or teens table is so great, when I was a kid and a teen I LOVED to see what was going on at weddings, and I think that watching the events will keep kids more occupied and quiet than putting them in a separate area.
@MissBananaBread: I second this, any space being used for anything other than guest seating should be rearranged. Any chance you could squeeze two tables in the main room?
I second a few of those suggestions. I think making it a "Kids Area" would be really fun- the tables could have kid friendly decor, activities, and treats. If it gets a bit loud, it's a great spot for it!
If this isn't possible, I also second putting gift/card table, or even food out there and the 2 guest tables in the main room. I don't think there's really any way you can choose to put {adult} guests back there without hurt feelings.
Hah. When I saw the topic, I thought it was where the "bad" guests have to sit. Like the "time-out" chair. Drink too much at the open bar and make a nuisance of yourself to great aunt-Mildred? It's the bad table for you, buster! :)
I think the suggestions offered so far have been pretty good. I especially like the idea of relocating other things from the main room to that area, or else putting the tables on the dance floor and moving them after dinner.
We had a few tables that were further away from the dance floor/wedding party table/bar. We placed some school friends there who we knew would be up on the dance floor anyways, and some friends who had young children because it wasn't so loud.
Decision, decision! The venue doesn't want to let us at a table to the dance floor. They are being sooo difficult. I think we'll just seat our easy going friends there, have them eat first then hope for the best.
@supernaturalove: I was going to suggest that too. Just put your friends who you know will be chill, and understand what you're going through.
Kids or friends are the best bet. Any family member will want to and feel entitled to see what is going on. Yes I'm sure friends want to see too but won't care as much.
As for the having to split people with the drama up, I had to do that too. I did each family table half and half so that it was "fair" to everyone. One table won't just be all my aunts/uncles from one side. It will be half from both. Then people are forced to mingle and get to know other people.
Well, you could stick the last people who RSVP there. I think that would be fair.
We had a couple tables at the back that 1) didn't have a great view and 2) were going to be dismantled for dancing. We put DH's work buddies there, and then had the bar positioned conveniently close by, and they were totally happy.
@supernaturalove: Perhaps you could make special effort to greet those guests at the tables? What about putting an extra bottle of wine or some other treat, bonus, or something extra special on the tables?
I'd say the kiddie table, other items as mentioned.. Or (Gasp) those who rsvp last. :)
I think the idea of a "kids table" is good, but not so much a "kids table" but perhaps a "young adult table" who probably think weddings are stupid anyhow... You know the tweens? then they would be by themselves, having a good time, shirly temples anyone?
just a thought... That way they aren't too young so they dont need "sitters" they are old enough to take care of themselves, and they can socialize with ppl their own age and they will enjoy it.
good Luck. personally I would be kinda pissed if that was my section. but tweens probably wont care... Let us know what you decide!
Ronney
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