Post # 1
I am leaning towards not having my bridal party sitting with us at a head table because they all have SO and I would prefer to have them sit with their loved ones.
instead, I was thinking either a sweetheart or a table with our parents. The thing with the sweetheart is tI would feel like all eyes would be on us and I am shy and might find that a little uncomfortable.
Bees who chose sweetheart table or just a small table with parents, what were the pros/cons?
Post # 3
@Carmabelle: head tables are way more awkward. People are not going to be staring at you at the sweetheart table. However, if you want to parade your bridal party awkwardly next to you as if it is the last supper, that draws A LOT more attention to you than a small, intimate sweetheart table or table with parents.
Please, do not do a head table.
Post # 4
@Carmabelle: What @cantonbride said. The nice thing about a sweetheart is that it’s small and not in-your-face like a head table. You don’t have to put it out in front away from the other tables either! put it smack in the middle so you can mingle!
Post # 5
@Carmabelle: Speaking as a guest, I prefer a head table. I think it is nice to honor the wedding party by seating them where they can actually be seen and recognized.
It’s only for the duration of the dinner. After that they can go sit with their SO’s.
As a young bride, I also preferred sharing the center of attention with the wedding party.
Post # 6
We are doing a sweetheart table because people in the BP all of families they would want to sit with. Also, it’d be easier for FI and I to get around to the tables without leaving an empty table smack dab in front of the room.
That and call me selfish, but I want some alone time with my new husband.
Post # 7
We are doing a head table, and we are sitting their guests with us, as well as both sets of parents.
If we need to put chairs on the other side of the table as well, we will. It’s not a huge deal, but we want everyone together!
Post # 8
@Carmabelle: We sat our wedding party and their dates at our table which was centrally located at our reception. That way none of us were on display and our wedding party didn’t get separated from their SOs.
Post # 9
What about a king table? With the wedding party and their dates. That’s what we are doing. Then you can sit with your friends but they aren’t separated from their dates.
Post # 10
@Carmabelle: As a professional bridesmaid, I can say DO NOT do the head table!
We are choosing a sweetheart table because:
Mostly a) Want to be able to have a few private conversations/ spend time together and we BOTH will make time for food and to sit down and chat a bit
b) having the bridal party being able to relax at tables with their husbands/wives and other friends
c) I actually feel it makes the bride and groom more acessible than if they are sitting at a table with their elite/ VIP enjoying the night
Post # 11
Thanks for the input bees. I feel more comfortable about the idea of a sweetheart table now. I really thought everyone was going to tell me that I NEEDED a head table!
Post # 12
You don’t need a head table at all! Heck, I don’t even think there needs to be a sweetheart table. Why can’t bride and groom sit at a normal table like everyone else? That’s what I think I’ll want to do.
Post # 13
I had never heard of a sweet heart table until a few years ago, but instantly fell in love with the idea of one. I going to do one for my wedding for the reasons that previous posters have mentioned. I’m also going to have members of the wedding party seated with their SO at tables near ours, possibly with special centerpieces. I feel like the sweetheart table fits mine and FI’s personalities well.
Post # 14
@Carmabelle: We had a single bridesmaid and 2 attached best men. For us the easiest and most comfortable for everyone (despite DH’s parents being divorced!) was a table of us and our parents. We sat our Mums together at one side and Dads together at the other. It worked perfectly.
Post # 15
@sunflower22: This is what we did, even though it was a back yard affair and small. So it was much easier logistics wise. We didn’t have assigned seats. Everyone either knew each other or wanted to so everyone mingled, got food, and sat down wherever. DH and I didn’t even sit next to each other 🙂 we were almost across from each other… the way people sat made us not quite across lol.
We had a few more chairs than people and when someone went to get seconds or something else they’d sit in a new spot (“pass me my drink please”) so it was constantly changing and pretty neat.
Post # 16
Personally, I think sweetheart tables look a little rude. To me, they have an air of exclusivity and almost like you’re trying to set yourself apart from your guests, on a day of unity and love. I am 100% not a fan of them, at all.
I like a head table. Being in the bridal party is an honor, and you give them a seat of honor to show that, rather than putting them at regular guest tables. Generally, adults can handle being away from their SOs for the hour that the meal takes, and then can hang out and party after. A table assignment doesn’t mean you’re superglued to that chair, and they can all mingle after the meal is finished.