Post # 1
So my wedding is like a week and a half away and now I’m working on the seating arrangements. I’m having a really hard time seating people! Its a small wedding, 46 people, and I originally thought tables of 6 or so would be nice. My college friends though, who all know eachother are a group of 7, and since they are singles, I wanted to seat them with my FH’s single friends, with 6 at a table, its not possible.
Also, is it okay to seat my Boss and co-worker with my aunt and uncle? I feel they would get along nicely, but would they find it weird to be sitting together?
Did any of your bee have similar issues? How did you solve your seating dilemmas?
Post # 3
My wedding isn’t for a little over a month but i’ve started to use an online seating chart program as my rsvps come in and I know exactly how your feeling! FI and I both have huge families, mine family takes up 6 tables. I just started by seating the people I could picture being “problematic” about who are the sitting with first, and making sure that those tables got done first, and now i’m working on seating the “extras” like my boss and a couple clients I use to work with who are coming, and the odd number out family members. I’m doing what your doing and seating them with people who I believe they will get along with and be able to have conversation with. It’s my hope that atleast they won’t be stuck in the situation of just sitting at a table silent for however long the dinner/toasts are going to be.
Post # 4
i HATED doing the seating chart! there’s no way to make everyone happy. just do as good as you can, and if they don’t like it, oh well. maybe you can seat half of your friends with half of your fi’s. that way one girl won’t be left out of the group, they’ll all have friends at their table.
Post # 5
Not looking forward to this!!!!
Post # 6
Seat people where you want to. There is nothing wrong with having tables with different numbers of guests. Our tables seat 8 and there will be about 4 tables that have less than that number (one only has 4). Seat people where you know they will be comfortable. Not everyone is going to know eachother. I have been to several weddings where I was seated with some I know and some I didn’t know. It’s fun to get to know new people.
Post # 7
I agree with the other bees, simply do your best. We both have huge families but thankfully they have met at a few functions already so we will be mixing the families at the tables by seating people who we think will get along well together. I can ‘t imagine anyone actually complaining at the reception about their seating and if they complan afterward, just apologize & move on.
Post # 8
Thank you for your replies! I ended up using weddingwire to assist with the seating chart, it was great to see it visually and realize that just b/c people are at seperate tables, doesn’t mean they can’t communicate with the tables around them:)
@artbee: This is precisely what I ended up doing, 2 tables of our friends, each with half of mine, and half of my FH’s.
Post # 9
I did exactly what you are doing. Yes assign specific seating for the wedding party table so that you dont have none wedding party sitting at it. I wish I could change the fact that i spent so MUCH TIME on the place cards and putting them at the exact seats I wanted them at. Some people didnt show and it looked funny with a place card and momento there for them. Many of my guest moved themselves and it took them a long time to find where they are to be sitting because the family member i assigned to that dutie didnt do her job she hung out in the bar and gossiped. The best advice i have is to only assign specific seating for wedding party table. make the card/momento and put them on an entry table with someone there helping them find there name and explain to sit where ever they are comfortable except this table #1 which is the wedding party table. More advice: Assign more then one person to that duty and make sure they show people where your guest book is and where they need to sign!! my book barely got signed because again my person in charge was at the bar. Not to mention there are areas in the book that like the maid of honor fill out and none of that got signed or filled out. sorry its long i just want to help others not make the same mistakes i made. congrats and good luck