Hi @soontobemrsstofiel: First & Foremost I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
I am a bit of an “Etiquette Snob here… lol” (in so much as I know most of the Rules Traditional & Modern, based on my Upbringing & my Career)
So lets see if I can help you out…
In North America, the Tradition is that the “Most Honoured” Guests are seated last… just before the Ceremony begins.
So first thing you have to figure out is WHO are your Most Honoured… this list usually includes, Parents – GrandParents – and GodParents.
(And they are sat in that reverse order)
So GodParents first, then the GrandParents, then the Parents.
The last to be seated are in order…
* Groom’s Father & Mother
If they are Divorced, the Father would be seated with his Wife, SO or Plus One
* Then the Groom’s Mother (if she has a New Husband, SO or Plus one… he would follow her down the aisle behind the Usher / person who escorts her to her seat)
* Then the Bride’s Mother (it is usually assumed, that the Bride’s Dad will be escorting the Bride down the aisle on his arm)
When it comes to your Step Mother if you guys are close (was around while you were growing up etc) she can be seated just prior to your Mother
If you guys aren’t close… then she would be seated as per any other Guest… if she is arriving alone (ie Your Dad is with you) then your Step Mom should be accompanied down the aisle by an Usher.
Regarding your Plan… it sounds great. Your Groom could most certainly escort his Mother down the aisle, and then take his place at the front of the church.
If you guys are an emotional group… it would be totally appropriate for your Groom & Mother to exchange a kiss (she kiss him, he kiss her… or the whole kiss-kiss French Custom if you guys know that… in that case, no one is the initator… both people give & receive)
This works truly only tho, if it will be similar when your Dad walks you down the aisle.
It can look a tad strange if kisses are exchanged between Groom & Mom, and none are echoed in the same way between Your Dad & you (usually the FOB kisses her on the cheek if this is a custom for your family)
Hope this helps
PS… If you have more Questions, just ask.