Seating of bride and groom's parents

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s really common for the groom to escort his mother, if that’s what they want to do they certainly should. My husband escorted both of his parents. My brother escorted my grandparents then went back around for my mom, my brother in law who was the BM escorted DH’s grandmother, and the third groomsman escorted my step mom

Post # 4
Member
3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My stepmother is being escorted by my grandparents!

Post # 5
Member
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @soontobemrsstofiel:  First & Foremost I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I am a bit of an “Etiquette Snob here… lol” (in so much as I know most of the Rules Traditional & Modern, based on my Upbringing & my Career)

So lets see if I can help you out…

In North America, the Tradition is that the “Most Honoured” Guests are seated last… just before the Ceremony begins.

So first thing you have to figure out is WHO are your Most Honoured… this list usually includes, Parents – GrandParents – and GodParents.

(And they are sat in that reverse order)

So GodParents first, then the GrandParents, then the Parents.

The last to be seated are in order…

* Groom’s Father & Mother

If they are Divorced, the Father would be seated with his Wife, SO or Plus One

* Then the Groom’s Mother (if she has a New Husband, SO or Plus one… he would follow her down the aisle behind the Usher / person who escorts her to her seat)

* Then the Bride’s Mother (it is usually assumed, that the Bride’s Dad will be escorting the Bride down the aisle on his arm)

When it comes to your Step Mother if you guys are close (was around while you were growing up etc) she can be seated just prior to your Mother

If you guys aren’t close… then she would be seated as per any other Guest… if she is arriving alone (ie Your Dad is with you) then your Step Mom should be accompanied down the aisle by an Usher.

Regarding your Plan… it sounds great.  Your Groom could most certainly escort his Mother down the aisle, and then take his place at the front of the church.

If you guys are an emotional group… it would be totally appropriate for your Groom & Mother to exchange a kiss (she kiss him, he kiss her… or the whole kiss-kiss French Custom if you guys know that… in that case, no one is the initator… both people give & receive)

This works truly only tho, if it will be similar when your Dad walks you down the aisle.

It can look a tad strange if kisses are exchanged between Groom & Mom, and none are echoed in the same way between Your Dad & you (usually the FOB kisses her on the cheek if this is a custom for your family)

Hope this helps

PS… If you have more Questions, just ask.

 

Post # 6
Member
183 posts
Blushing bee

@This Time Round:  Thanks!  Not OP but very helpful information…not exactly our situation but I didn’t know the order.

One more question…does anyone walk with the MOB?

Post # 7
Member
9533 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

My step-brother was supposed to walk my step-mother down the aisle but he flaked at the last minute (he has bipolar) and so one of the groomsmen (my husband’s brother) walked her down the aisle and then he just looped back. It was fine!

 

Post # 8
Member
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @ladydirtold:  Re – MOB

In a traditional situation the MOB would be escorted down the aisle by an Usher.  She’d be the last one seated before the Aisle Runner is rolled out and the Processional begins.

— — —

In the Post I did above (Reply # 4) the Bride wanted the to know if it would be OK for her Groom to Usher his Mother (it would be fine)

As well, I’ve in the past answered situations where the MOB is escorting the Bride down the aisle (no Dad / Living Dad) in which case the MOB assumes the role of the FOB… and takes the Bride to the front of the Church… and there is the option of her kissing her Daughter farewell there… OR the Bride assumes the role of the MOB’s Escort.. and they stop at the aisle / row where the MOB is to be seated, and they say their farewells there… in which case the Bride continues the walk on her own, or sometimes her Groom will walk to meet her / walk her the rest of the way.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
Member
46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How about your brother escorts your step-mother and then the groom escorts both his mother and your mother, one on each side.  He would seat them and then go ahead and stand up there? 

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors