Post # 1
I just finished my seating chart….I think. I am amazed at how many people had to be moved around because they insist on being seated with a certain group or at a certain table. Really, it’s a few hours people! I’m not asking you to LIVE in the venue, just asking for you to sit at a table for a little while. Suck it up an get OVER it! Ugh!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
That’s the exact reason why I advocate creating a seating chart only for parents, grandparents, and the bridal party. Let everyone else hash out their weird affinities for sitting with certain people. That way it’s their own fault if they get a bad seat and I don’t have to hear whining for months about why I sat them with Cousin Lou who talks to much or Aunt Gertie who smells like cigarettes and booze.
Post # 4
@speechgal44: I don’t understand seating charts. People are going to move regardless. Once dinner is done, they’ll get up, go dance and go visit with others.
Post # 5
We did the seating chart and didn’t tell anyone with whom they were sitting, know why? Becuase they can GET UP and MOVE if they don’t like it. Half of the guests were either on the dance floor or at the bar anyway, so it really didn’t matter. The 30 minutes it took to get the meal served & eaten didn’t kill anyone.
That said, my dad & his brother don’t get along, and there were two situations of divorced/broken up couples we decided to sit far from one another.
Post # 6
Don’t listen to those people – you can’t possibly fulfill everyone’s requests, and, even if you could, that’s just…way too much effort. 😛 They will live! Plus, they can get up and (wait for it) walk to another table. Or the dance floor! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Sigh. That’s why only DH and I worked on ours.
@speechgal44: How did things work out with you and FI, as far as compromising on the wedding style? (I remember your “wedding don’t matter?” post)
Post # 8
Yeah it’s not even really a few hours, just the amount of time it takes to finish dinner. Last wedding I went to with assigned seating, I wasn’t thrilled with my table assignment, but I never sat in my chair again once dinner was over.
Post # 9
The best thing we ever did was let DH take a stab at the seating chart. I flat-out refused to do ours; I’ve never been to a wedding where someone wasn’t whining about where they were seated (assuming they had assigned seating) and I didn’t feel like spending hours and hours trying to get things just right and still have someone pi** and moan over it.
But DH really wanted a plated meal and to get a plated meal we needed place cards and some clue as to where they would all end up going, so I let him have a crack at it. And he did an excellent job. He made some choices that I would not have made, and I fully admit to having to really shut off the micromanager in me, but with about 40 minutes’ work, he managed to get everyone arranged and keep them happy. FWIW he pretty much ignored any special requests from anyone and only asked for advice when it came to a couple of groups of my friends that he didn’t know.
I think men just don’t see the seating chart as being as big a deal as women do; it’s just dinner, after all, and since they are not as focused on the social aspects, they’re able to get some combinations of folks that truly work out better. Who cares if all my co-workers weren’t at the same table? There were enough of them at any given table to keep each other company, and everyone made some new friends.
We have some friends getting married in 2 weeks and I told the bride to let the groom do the seating chart, and while we won’t know the outcome till the day of, she said he had it done in no time too, and that she actually was impressed with how it came out.
Post # 10
Ignore those people.
I think seating charts are fun, I’ve often gotten to sit with people that I otherwise wouldn’t have gotten to know at all.
(Funny story, when we had recently started dating, Mr. E and I once went to a formal dinner where the hostess had forgotten her seating chart. She did the best she could out of memory, but ended up with a handful of place cards that she couldn’t remember who they were, so she stuck us at this table in the back corner. Mr. E sat with his college friends, and I had a lovely dinner with a bunch of strangers. Also, we were right next to the table where the wine was. 🙂
If you just want to leave people to fend for themselves, that’s fine, but it’s also a nice way to help your guests find a group of people they may enjoy socializing with, especially out of town guests or guests that may not know many other people attending.
Or, if people complain, you can always say, “Well… I guess I could put you next to DH’s first college roommate… Smelly Joe.”
Post # 11
you’re right, it’s only a few hours at dinner. once that is over, it’s mingling and dancing. they are adults. they will make due.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
HAha– I went with the mindset that it’s only a few hours, so if they can’tfind seats for themselves, they can starve!
Post # 13
Why would you even entertain the idea of taking requests? Nobody will know where theyre sitting until the day of my wedding, and anyone who tries to tell me where they’d like to be, or with whom, will get a snarky response!
Post # 14
My fiance thinks it’s best if we put all the names on a board and throw a dart at it.
haha..he might be on to something…..
Post # 15
@rebwana: I think we worked it out. We are having it at the venue that I wanted, but are incorporating a lot of the elements that he wanted ( cupcake tower, braiding ceremony, etc), so I think we are both happy! Thanks for asking! 🙂
Post # 16
@kariface: Actually, it was FI who felt the people in his family needed to be moved around. Even his daughters agreed that their family is really weird about that sort of thing and I needed to be careful about seating. My family will pretty much sit anywhere. I tried telling FI that they would all get up and move around anyway, so I let him deal with the seating and we worked it out. 🙂