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Until I came here, I didn't know it was terrible to have a second shower. In fact, I went to one, gave presents, and still am not offended by it. Why not celebrate the second baby?
As for wording, I have no idea.
I have heard different opinions in this. I am of the opinion that there is nothing tacky about it. Everyone I know had a shower for their 2nd baby.
If you want to have a get together without any gifts, you can just put this on the invites.
Something alone the lines of "you presence is the only gift we need"
Call it a "celebration" instead of a baby shower.
I honestly find nothing wrong with having a second baby shower. i dont see it as gift grabbing but rather your celebrating your new baby! I have been to many baby showers where it wasnt their first baby.
I am actually a fan of having a little shower or "sprinkle" for each baby. However, I think it would look like a gift grab if you are hosting the event yourself. Are any of the people asking offering to throw you a shower?
I was raised and always taught that you had a baby shower for your first baby and that was that. Additional showers were "tacky" unless of course there were a substancial number of years between the children.
@TheFutureMcBride: I agree. I think people get a little too much into "etiquette". Ever since getting married, I am so done with what people tell me the etiquette is. If it works for me, and seems common ....then forget what people say the rules are :-) Everyone I know had a shower for the 2nd baby....
I don't see anything wrong with having a second shower. If you have everything that you need, I would just have a diaper shower.
here is my 2 cents. no it's not wrong to have a second baby shower. but people dont see it as such a big deal as the first one. i just threw a huge baby shower for my best friends second kid and go so many comments on "why is this so big, it's her second child". and to be honest i felt a little the same. But i would never tell her that. i made the choice that for my second child i'm going to have a small group of close friends and close family come to the second one and have it be more of a lunch/treat shower. rather then all the baby games and shopping off a registry. i think that people just get the idea that a second shower isnt that big of a deal cause you already have so much of the big ticket items you need.
on the other had my friend didnt have a second baby shower and she is still hurt by the fact that her family and best friend didnt host one for her.
i think having a smaller one and maybe pick a theme like new born clothes-stuff that you really do need might be the way to go.
do whatever you want. a second baby is just as exciting and a blessing as your first. so do what you want!
It's not bad per se to have a second baby shower, but you definitely shouldn't throw it for yourself. It kind of sounded like you would be doing that to me. So, if you want to throw a party that is essentially for the birth of your second child, but is very explicitly not a shower, then it is fine. Or, maybe friends/family will throw you a shower :)
i honestly had no idea that anyone even had strong opinions about baby shower etiquette before becoming pregnant...to me, it's a new baby, so of course there's cause for celebration! so my opinion is that you should definitely celebrate your second child if that's what you feel inspired to do. i think a party with a diaper raffle is a cute idea - but just like with any party (engagement, birthday, etc) i think you should make it very clear that you are doing it to celebrate your new addition and not asking for gifts. any gifts people want to give are just a bonus to being able to celebrate with your friends and family, right? i kind of hate the word tacky, but no one likes to feel pressured to buy things they may not be able to afford...
I think every baby should be celebrated BUT I think it should be smaller (either in guest list or not registering for the newest fads). So like I wouldn't have a problem with a diaper/onesie party or some sort of "sprinkle" with cake, punch, and some friends. But inviting your entire family again and creating a huge registry does seem like a gift grab TO ME. If it's normal in your area, go for it.
I personally don't think anyone should ever throw themselves any type of "shower," so I don't think diapers or anything else should be mentioned as needing to be brought to this party. But I think having a pre-baby BBQ or whatever would be totally fine, and definitely something you could host yourself. I would say, don't make it a formal invite type of deal with an RSVP or anything. Either call people up or facebook them to invite them -- keep it casual.
I think if someone else wants to host it then it's fine but I don't think you should plan it for yourself (or have your family plan it), that looks greedy.
Personally I wouldn't think it was tacky to get an invitation to a baby shower for a second child - if the babies were close together and I didn't really feel like I wanted to give anything I just wouldn't attend.
I'd expect a second baby shower to be smaller and probably not have a registry unless there were at least 5 years between the children. Regardless, if I wanted to give a friend a present for a second baby I wouldn't need there to be shower as a reason to do it.
I'd probably avoid the BBQ idea, because I wouldn't go to a BBQ thinking I needed to bring a gift so stating that people don't need to bring them sounds weird. If your family wants to get you something that's fine - just tell them you're not having a shower.
I think if someone besides you are hosting the party it will be fine! I agree if you register for things you have but newer versions I can see people that attended the first one thinking it was weird or rude or whatever.. but I think if its mainly a diapers, wipes, baby shampoo etc. essencial type things it will be fine. Congrats!!
I get fatigued by all of the showers/parties. You give a gift for an engagement, a wedding shower, a wedding, a house, a baby shower, and now a second (or third) baby shower? Just sometimes seems like it never ends. Your stated reason is that you could still use things, but - we all have lists of things we could use. But I'm single, no kids, no house, so take my words with a very large grain of salt.
I think if you had one and said something like 'your presence is our present' or something on the invite it would be okay. If you didn't write that, I'd think it was kind of tacky though.
I dont see anything wrong with it... I know my SIL had a shower for all 3 of her kids... never seen her as being greedy of course the 3rd one was just really close family & some of her really close friends but i dont think it is greedy.
I think most showers are tacky, I just don't like the present grab part of it. But a friend threw my baby shower and I asked for no gifts (I am a firm believer in doing things yourself), and with bub #2 we will probably do the same thing, just a gathering with friends and family playing games and celebrating the new baby coming :)
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Okay so I'm pregnant with my second son and a few months ago I found out that second baby showers could be considered tacky. I personally thinks its fine, everyone could use a little help with each additional baby. Now I can see it being a little tacky if you are just out to get newer more trendy versions of what you already have and don't really NEED. So here's where I'm not sure what do... A few friends and family members have asked if I'm having one and I'm just not sure. My baby shower for my first we were super lucky and got a ton of stuff we needed (we didn't have to buy diapers for the first 6 months!) So heck yeah I would like that to happen again but I am terrified of looking greedy. So my idea was maybe have a co-ed party/cookout shindig just to celebrate the new baby and maybe have a diaper raffle or something but somehow make it clear that presents are not at all expected. I also have no desire to do a "meet the baby party" after he is born, bc if feel half as crappy as I did after the first one the last thing I want to do is have a party. So what do you think ladies? Party with diaper raffle? Or nothing at all?
Also how would you word an invite to make it clear its not a baby shower?