Post # 1
I posted about this several months ago, but thought I could use some more opinions, and ask for more specifics.
My husband and I adopted a 3.5 month old kitten from the shelter in December 2010. She is now 1 and 1/2 years old. We are thinking about adopting another cat or kitten, because we love cats and because we are gone for 10 hours a day, and take a fair amount of weekend and overnight trips (we hire a cat sitter to come for 30 minutes each day).
But we are sort of agonizing over it- we are afraid it will change our cat’s personality and/or that she will hate the new cat/kitten or develop behavioral issues. I know there is no sure way to tell.
Would those of you who have multiple cats mind sharing their sexes, ages when you got the new cat/kitten, whether they get along, and what their personalities are like?
My cat is very sweet, a total lap cat who sleeps with us, doesn’t mind being held and meows for attention, but she does her own thing too. She can be a bit timind and hides under the bed when people come over that she doesn’t know, but she eventually comes out, sniffs around and lets people pet her and maybe pick her up. When we take her to the vet, she meows at the other cats, doesn’t seem to hiss or puff… but then again, they are all in crates and in neutral territory.
Does anyone have any advice about whether this would be a good idea given my cat’s personality? If so, any advice on whether I should get an adult or kitten and what type of temperament I should look for?
Post # 3
My personal belief is to get a cat near your cat’s age. So maybe a cat that is 2-3 years old. I wouldn’t get another kitten. Cats over a year old are more in need anyway. The shelter should have information about the cat’s personality and which type of cat would vibe with yours.
You can PM me if you want information about how to assimilate to them to each other. I have definitely had experience. I got my second cat (2 years old at the time) when my other cat was 4. They had a difficult time getting to know each other, but now they are best of friends.
Post # 4
@EleanorRigby: I have 3 cats, all females. We got the first one when she was about 9 months old, she was fine when we got her no issues. We got our second one about 4 months after that and she was just a kitten. I’ll be honest, they hated each other at first. We had to keep them in separate rooms for a few weeks but one day we had a suitcase laying on the floor and they start chasing each other and playing around/in it. Everything was fine after that.
Fast-forward about a year and a half we got our third cat, also a kitten. Same reaction from the other two, they hated her a first. But one day they just started playing with each other and got over it.
They aren’t best friends by any means, and the first cat we got is fairly dominant and will hiss at the other two from time to time. she defiantly shows them she’s boss and this is her turf. But they love to chase each other around the house and wrestle and play. And I have caught all 3 of them sleeping on the bed together many times. I made sure their time together was supervised at first, just so they didn’t hurt each other, but it was never like that. It was just a lot of across the room hissing.
they only thing behavioral I noticed was the first cat we got has a problem with wanting to eat allll the time, she will just sit by the pantry and meow and meow…it’s ridiculous. And she gets a little aggressive when the others come by her food bowl, but we just moved hers to a separate quiet area. I also think she was starved when she was a kitten, so they may be why she acts that way.
I didn’t notice any changes in overall personality though.
I don’t think they will hate each other forever, but the first few weeks can be very rough. I would also recommend getting a female kitten, just seems it’s easier to get the older cat to adjust to a kitten. Just remember they’ll get over it and be acquaintances at the least lol
hope that helps! 🙂
Post # 5
We’ve had several cats. I got my second kitten when my first was four years ago, (the kitten was a stray we found in a gas station parking lot). They became friends pretty quickly and easily. Several years later, DH moved in with his two cats. One of his got along okay with mine…they pretty much ignored each other. The other one of his had a big problem with my younger male, and it got to the point where we had to keep them seperated when we weren’t around to supervise. They did get a bit better, but even after over five years of living together they didn’t care for each other.
My older boy passed away about a year and a half ago, and one of DH’s cats passed a couple years before that. Leaving us with the two that didn’t get along. DH said we can’t get another cat until my cat dies, because my cat is a jerk. He didn’t believe me that HIS cat instigated 99% of the fights, (which is even more stupid, because my cat is considerably larger than her). His cat passed away at the end of last year. We have since taken in a foster cat, and she gets along just fine with my “jerk” of a cat. I think DH finally believes me that it was HIS cat causing the issues, not mine.
Anyway, my point is that it depends a lot on both your cat and the cat you’re bringing in what will happen. None of my cats had a personality change. I do think you’re better off getting a cat closer to your cat’s age, and one that is of a similar personality. If you adopt from a rescue group that fosters their cats in a home, (as opposed to being a shelter situation), you can get a better idea of their personality. Also, some rescue groups do a “foster to adopt” program, where you agree to foster the cat for them, with the intention of adopting it if things work out. That might be an option for you to consider as well, since the situation would be temporary if the cats didn’t get along.
Good luck with your decision!
Post # 6
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Our first (male) cat was something like 4 or 5 years old when we got the other two, and it wasn’t really planned out well at all. Murphy was used to having the run of the house and didn’t like any other animals being in his space so when we brought home Maggie (about 2 years old, female) and Marbles (about a year old, male) it was war.
Maggie was pretty meek and timid so she just grabbed a spot on the couch and didn’t move for a week while Marbles and Murphy flipped out. We ended up locking Marbles in the office so he and Murphy could fight through the door rather than in person and it got so bad I thought we’d have to take the two shelter kitties back (we got them both at the same time on a trial basis).
The new kitties already knew each other and got along okay but Murphy was the holdout. One day we went to work and came back to find the office door busted open, and all three cats hanging out in the living room. Whatever happened that day, they got used to each other and that was the end of the hissing and fighting.
Murphy is, believe it or not, happier now that we have friends for him. He’s less needy and wants to spend less time with us. Maggie has come out of her shell a but but she still loves people more than the other cats, and she can be pretty cranky towards them. Marbles is the baby and still acts like a kitten so he’s the most rambunctious and gets himself swatted at more often than not. They seem to partner up sometimes — Maggie and Marbles get along and Murphy is shunned, Marbles and Murphy get along and Maggie is shunned — but overall it’s quite harmonious.
Your cat sounds very much like Murphy was before we got the other two! Don’t be surprised if your kitty wants to spend less time with you if you bring in a friend.
Post # 7
@Kjeff760: they only thing behavioral I noticed was the first cat we got has a problem with wanting to eat allll the time, she will just sit by the pantry and meow and meow.
Out of curiousity, have you had her checked out by a vet for this? Illnesses like Diabetes and Hyperthyroidism can cause your cat to eat more. My older boy had hyperthyroidism, and he was constantly hungry, but wasn’t gaining weight. Medication helped curb his appetite a little bit, and definitely stablized his weight. Being starved as a kitten can contribute to the eating-all-the-time thing too, (we deal with that with my younger boy), but just be sure to rule out a medical reason if you haven’t already done so.
Post # 8
I agree that you should get a cat close in age to your current cat. I adopted a 4 year old female cat and my second cat was a 5 year old male cat. I also heard that adopting different genders helps them get along better. Also, be sure that you introduce them slowly. We kept our new cat in his own room for the first few days, so the cats could get used to each others scents. Then we only let them spend time together when they could be supervised, until we felt comfortable leaving them alone together.
Post # 9
@Miss Apricot: I did take her the vet and they just said “you need to play with her more and make her work for her food” which i did and still do but it doesnt seem to help.
Shes due for a checkup soon, and I am going to take her to a new vet so I will ask about that. Thanks!
Post # 10
Thanks for the responses everyone. I think we will probably get another one.. just have to work out the details.