Post # 1
I honestly struggled a little bit with our date. Our anniversary is May 18, and I always wanted to get married on that day too. In 2014 it’s a Sunday. That would have been perfect EXCEPT that the (in)famous SF Bay to Breakers run is on that exact same day that year! Can we say crazy traffic, drunken revelers and porta-potties galore? Ugh. I was seriously thinking about sayng ‘screw that!” and have our wedding anyway on that day, but in the end I felt that the street closures, traffic and general chaos of that day would be too much for me and my guests. So May 17 (Saturday) it is!
I’m just feeling a little ‘off’ about the date because in my head the 18th has always been our special day, and now I have to get used to saying 17 instead. Any other Bees have the same feeling about not being able to get married on the date they wanted? How’d you feel about and how’d you get over it?
Post # 3
FI and I started dating on October 15, 2005. That has always been our special day! But October 15 is a Tuesday this year, and obviously won’t occur on a weekend for 4 years. So, we made our wedding date October 19, 2013. Honestly, I’ve already gotten used to saying the date! And FI and I joke about how we will have “anniversary week”, where we will celebrate all week both anniversaries! So in the end it all worked out. We’ll be dating 8 years and 4 days when we say “I do!”
Post # 4
That sucks you didn’t get the date you wanted, but now you’ll have a whole weekend to celebrate future anniversaries!
Post # 5
i know exactly how you feel!! i really wanted to get married as close to our dating anniversary as possible (4/20) and we’ve had to switch it to 6/27.. i know alot of people say ‘who cares’ and that the date doesnt really matter until you are married, but it mattered to me! anyway, im just kind of dealing with it and maybe we’ll celebrate both hahah, who knows. but your new date is SO close to the old one, you can make it an anniversary WEEKEND! celebrate whichever day you want, because both are special 🙂
Post # 6
We were originally going to get married on 5/10/14 (the halfway point between our 5/7 and 5/14 birthdays), but moved up the wedding by a year, so now the date is 5/11/13. For like three months after we moved the date up, I kept saying the 10th, though!
Post # 7
I agree with PPs – anniversary weekend! 🙂 I think it might feel weird now because you’re still getting used to it, but once you get closer to the wedding date it will feel so much more natural.
Post # 8
We tried to keep our wedding date as close to our anniversary date as possible too (anniversary date: October 8th… wedding date: October 5th). But I think the days being back-to-back works out aweome, because you now get a TWO DAY LONG anniversary weekend!
We’re slowly making the mental adjustment to our new date — and we will. And so will you.
Post # 9
Have the reception go till midnight so u will be still celebrating ur marriage on ur anniversary date 🙂
Post # 10
@skipanther: Haha that is an awesome idea!
Post # 11
I totally understand. We are still unsure of a date but it has no emotional significance whatsoever. On the other hand, I would LOVE to get married on May 17 since it’s our anniversary (that would be our 11th)! I know it doesn’t mean anything but it will be one more special day for you and you’ll always have your dating anniversary too. Also, there are us May 17 ladies who would love to have that date but cant (my wedding is in India, I live in the US and my graduation from law school is May 16 2014).
Post # 12
Why dont you have everything and just sign the papers on sunday??? Or right at midnight?That way you get to have both!! We’re probably going to do that, sign the license on our anniversary, a tuesday (I think) and keep it a secret and then on saturday do the religious ceremony (where we live unless you’re Catholic and are married by the church, the licence has to be performed by a lawyer and is very unromantic and legal 🙁 )
Post # 13
OP, is it too late to switch it back to the 18th? You could always think of having it somewhere outside of town or away from the traffic…just a thought…I feel for ya! 🙁
Post # 14
I just looked at their web site and the Bay to Breakers starts at 7 am, and everything closes by midday. From http://baytobreakers.com/index.php?page=general-information#item12
“Finish Line Closure The course will close at 11:30 a.m. at the intersection of JFK Drive and Bernice Rogers Drive in Golden Gate Park. Participants who have not passed this intersection by 11:30 a.m. will not have the opportunity to cross the finish line. The finish line closes promptly at noon as stipulated by the race’s road closure permit.”
So as long as you have an afternoon wedding you’ll be fine! Why not have a “dry run” – go into SF early on the afternoon of this year’s race and see how you manage getting around.
That said, it’s perfectly fine to not marry on your dating anniversary. It gives you a new day to celebrate.
Post # 15
@TogetherThroughLife: We could actually switch the date to the 18th, but we love our venues and definitely want our wedding and reception in the city. On Bay to Breakers the entire city is in party mode even though the actual event is supposedly done by noon and our reception venue is also just up the road from the finish line so we’re definitely going to run into something B2B on that day. 🙁
Like PP’s said, I guess I’m just going to have to get used to saying SEVENteen instead of EIGTHteen. The idea of an anniversary weekend is actually growing on me now. 🙂
Post # 16
@bellaingenue: At least your date is super close to your anniversary! I know it may not be the same date, but it’s pretty cool that you will have an anniversary weekend. 🙂