- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
The dress thing has been weird for me. I had something in mind while I was looking online (tea-length was a must, something simple, no haltar, preferably with sleeves — like a lot of the 50s-style dresses out there), but really had no idea about fabrics, cuts, anything.
When I went looking, I admit that I went to only two shops. And neither one had tea-length dresses for me to try on, and so much of what attendants kept handing me was very beaded or detailed in some way, or was just “not right” in some way that I couldn’t put my finger on.
At the second shop, I did find a dress that I liked. I liked how it looked on me and how I looked in it, but by no means was it “the moment” that so many brides have. I never expected to have it, because I simply wasn’t that interested in the dress situation, overall, so I wasn’t disappointed. I’m just explaining the situation.
The lack of excitement I felt was exacerbated by the fact that the dress I bought wasn’t the dress it would eventually become. I would be making quite a few changes that turned it into a totally different dress, but I didn’t actually know anything about alterations so I didn’t know if what I was picturing was even possible!
So, problems with the original / alterations to make:
- Straight neckline / make it sweetheart
- Floor-length / make it tea-length
- Felt too formal / hopefully the shorter skirt + lime green shoes would help
- Sleeveless / get a jacket
When I brought the dress in, the woman pinned it and all that good stuff, and untacked some of the skirt’s rouching, which made it a lot less “floofy” and more casual, which I appreciated. But still, I wasn’t sure how it would turn out.
So today I went in and it looks completely different! I’m still not “omg, it’s my dress”, at least not yet, but I admit to having a fluttery moment when I put it on with the shoes and the jacket I got. It’s so much easier to be interested in the whole thing when I can see it coming together. Today was the first time I felt a connection with it, even if it was slight. It was the first time that I felt it was starting to feel like me.
I didn’t take any pictures because it was still totally unfinished (tack threads sticking out after being cut, looking like snags, wasn’t zipped up all the way because somehow I could zip myself all the way up one day by myself, but now, no weight gain later, three of us can’t do it, so it’s being let out a little bit just to reduce that particular worry, ragged crinoline cut (it’s being removed, but was left in for the sake of fullness and to see how long I need to make mine), etc.), so I can’t show the changes yet, but I did feel compelled to come on here and just put it all out there.
I should have it back on October 03, and my crinoline will be made and the rest will be finished, so that I can show how it’s all changed. And I will admit that I am looking forward to it for the first time! Going shopping, ordering it, getting it in, first fitting — at no point did i feel anything but a pit in my stomach. But today things started to feel the way I think they’re “supposed” to. 🙂