(Closed) Second guessing engagement ring…. Normal or not HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ultimately it’s your decision.  I think it’s gorgeous

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

FWIW, it’s beautiful, and it might just be a matter of getting used to it. I can’t think of a design I tried on that didn’t seem like it might snag things.

Do you have an alternative in mind?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think this is abnormal.  I also don’t think you should worry too much about hurting his feelings since you both picked out your ring, it’s not something he picked out himself.

I think as long as you let him know you are struggling with the sentimental aspect of it you should be alright.  Maybe let him know that you will still consider it your engagement ring because the diamond is the same.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That ring is really beautiful!!  But I do think that you should love your ring and feel like it is you.  The first month I wore mine I knew I loved it and thought it was amazing but still questioned if it was me.  I think I just needed time to get used to it because now I know it is perfect.  But that may not be true for everyone.  I do think it is important to take your time when you make the decision. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs.Oconnell87: I did a lot of second guessing with the stone itself, and we ultimately ended up trading it for a different one. If it helps, my FI didn’t really care. If anything, he was just like “Ok, it’s fine. Just pick something.” 🙂  Maybe you could do some browsing at a few stores soon, and see how the profile of different styles will sit on your finger – it’s hard to do that online.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Oconnell87: I think it’s truly gorgeous.  If you’re looking to change it, have you considered keeping the same exact design (maybe tweeking what you don’t like), but redesigning it to be low profile/flushmount?  Just because it’s a halo, doesn’t mean it has to be on high prongs.

Use this thread for possible inspiration:

Any low profile rings?

You’ll save a ton of money reusing your diamonds, plus then it will be like the same ring he proposed with : )

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs.Oconnell87: They probably won’t notice. 🙂  Good luck! (also welcome to the Bee!)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I felt the EXACT same way.  I wore my ring a while, showing everyone and telling everyone how happy I was with it.  Then I began to realize that I wasn’t completely happy with it.  At first it was the thought that the ring wasn’t me.  Then I noticed that I was very, very nervous to leave it with anyone because of the type of stone it was and how everyone was shocked with how great it looked.  The diamonds would also need to be fixed since they were a little crooked sitting in the setting, so my FI decided to just let me pick something new out.  At first I was worried about what everyone would say, but once I got the new ring, everone loved it!  If you would be happier with something else, I really suggest you consider getting a new one.  If not, maybe you can ask a jeweler if you can maybe alter the ring the way you want it?  Good luck with your decision.

 

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