(Closed) Second Guessing Wedding Venue… Help?!

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
Member
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Seriously I JUST went through this same situation. I got engaged in July, booked a venue I “loved” in September and now my fiance and I have decided its not US and not ultimately what we want for our big day. I picked it because it was beautiful and was within the budget that my parents are so generously providing for us. My FI hates the venue. I can’t imagine getting married somewhere my FI hates and somewhere I settled for. We discussed it and decided since we are already having a long engagement, and are still over a year away from our projected wedding date we are going to have it at our dream venue. It will be over my parents budget but we have made the decision so cover the rest of the expenses on our own to make it happen. We are both SO happy and relieved. We get ONE day and we can’t imagine regretting not getting married at our dream venue, now everything just seems to be falling into place perdectly and i finally feel 100% secure and more excited than ever about our wedding! I know budget is a huge concern…when is your wedding? I feel like if you can dream it you can make it happen! If it is something you both want bad enough you will find a way to make it happen. You only get one wedding day and I think you should have your dream wedding! I think there are always ways to make your dream wedding come true you just have to make a list of your top priorities concerning the wedding. and figure out if you had to cut certain things from the budget or put less $ towards something for the wedding to have your dream location/venue then do that! It just depends on what is MOST important for you. For us it was our location/venue so we are cutting in other areas to ensure we can make it affordable 🙂 hope this helps! 

Post # 5
Member
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Gosh yeah we are losing $1,000 deposit if it makes you feel any better haha but like you said, we are fine with losing that because we will be getting exactly what we want, and its better than losing MORE later if we waited to change our minds! We had another $1,000 deposit coming up in August and I think that really put the pressure on us and made it a lot easier to just make the decision!

 

I feel your stress though I was like that too before doing research in the new area (we changed from northern ca to southern ca adding to the craziness haha) and figuring out what the cost of the change will be and its actually a lot closer to what the other one would have cost! Doing all of that cost comparison research and writing out the list of things in order of importance really made it a lot easier for me to make the decision to change. You definitely BOTH have to be in LOVE with your venue and your wedding. I never thought I would book a venue and back out either ever ever! BUT here I am doing it, but couldnt be any happier about it! 🙂 You just have to do some soul searching, it will click and you will know what is right. And your day will be beautiful and perfect because you are 100% confident with whatever decision you end up making! 

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