Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2014 - Traverse City
My fiancee and I looked at a wedding venue in June, shortly after we were engaged. I had hunted all over online, and when I saw this venue, I just knew we had to go look at it–I had such a good feeling. When I saw it, I loved it. It has a beautiful outdoor ceremony space with an elegant reception area inside. It’s also within our budget! However…
I think I’m having “Dream Wedding” vs “Reality Wedding” doubts. I am in love with this venue, I truly am. I have always wanted an outdoor ceremony, and I like elegant reception rooms. But in my mind, my dream wedding has always featured an outdoor reception under a tent with beautiful lighting (think the last scene of “My Best Friend’s Wedding”). I guess I just dismissed it because I didn’t see it as a reality, or as something feasible or easy to pull off (this is why an all-inclusive venue was appealing, it’s easier). I also am having an evening wedding, so it’s another reason I dismissed my dream tent idea. I’m also not sure an outdoor reception is in my budget 🙁 Gah! We’ve already put down the $500 deposit, I’ll have to check my contract again about the specifics on cancellations.
I’ve just had these gut wrenching feelings in the pit of my stomach the past few days as I’m browsing photos of reception ideas… I’m just fearful that I will regret not going with the image that’s stuck in my head or afraid to have my heart set on it then have it not be in our budget (total budget $15K minus rings/honeymoon).
Any help/advice is greatly appreciated, ladies! Also, wedding location is in Michigan, if you have an ideas of outdoor reception locations!
Post # 3
Seriously I JUST went through this same situation. I got engaged in July, booked a venue I “loved” in September and now my fiance and I have decided its not US and not ultimately what we want for our big day. I picked it because it was beautiful and was within the budget that my parents are so generously providing for us. My Fiance hates the venue. I can’t imagine getting married somewhere my Fiance hates and somewhere I settled for. We discussed it and decided since we are already having a long engagement, and are still over a year away from our projected wedding date we are going to have it at our dream venue. It will be over my parents budget but we have made the decision so cover the rest of the expenses on our own to make it happen. We are both SO happy and relieved. We get ONE day and we can’t imagine regretting not getting married at our dream venue, now everything just seems to be falling into place perdectly and i finally feel 100% secure and more excited than ever about our wedding! I know budget is a huge concern…when is your wedding? I feel like if you can dream it you can make it happen! If it is something you both want bad enough you will find a way to make it happen. You only get one wedding day and I think you should have your dream wedding! I think there are always ways to make your dream wedding come true you just have to make a list of your top priorities concerning the wedding. and figure out if you had to cut certain things from the budget or put less $ towards something for the wedding to have your dream location/venue then do that! It just depends on what is MOST important for you. For us it was our location/venue so we are cutting in other areas to ensure we can make it affordable 🙂 hope this helps!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2014 - Traverse City
Thank you SO much for responding, I feel like I’m about to have a panic attack, I’m nearly in tears–where the heck did all these crazy emotions come from?! I never expected to be so emotional over the planning part of the wedding!!
I’m so happy for you and your fiance having the wedding of your dreams, seems like you made the perfect choice! Our wedding date is August 24, 2013 (for our current venue). My fiance really loved the venue we looked at. When we first were talking about a wedding date, we were weighing options of a one or two year engagement. We are footing most the budget ourselves, so I suggested 2 years, but he didn’t want that at all. Which, I’m completely okay with a one year engagement–as long as it doesn’t compromise what we want. I’m so torn! I tried mentioning it to him earlier about having second thoughts on the venue and I just don’t think certain men understand the sentiment that goes into wedding planning. To him he doesn’t necessarily care where or how, he just wants to have a perfect day and marry me. He wasn’t upset that I changed my mind, I think he just had a difficult time understanding why it was such a huge deal to me. I myself am even having a hard time explaining why it’s so important to me, it’s so hard to put into words. I know the whole “I’ve dreamed of this since I was a little girl” thing can sound really cliche, but it’s true! His biggest concern is losing the $500, but I would rather lose $500 now than a few grand later on down the road if we do change our minds.
This is all so stressful, I never thought I would book a venue then want to back out! At least I’m not alone, thanks for reassuring me that there are others out there who have been there too!
Post # 5
Gosh yeah we are losing $1,000 deposit if it makes you feel any better haha but like you said, we are fine with losing that because we will be getting exactly what we want, and its better than losing MORE later if we waited to change our minds! We had another $1,000 deposit coming up in August and I think that really put the pressure on us and made it a lot easier to just make the decision!
I feel your stress though I was like that too before doing research in the new area (we changed from northern ca to southern ca adding to the craziness haha) and figuring out what the cost of the change will be and its actually a lot closer to what the other one would have cost! Doing all of that cost comparison research and writing out the list of things in order of importance really made it a lot easier for me to make the decision to change. You definitely BOTH have to be in LOVE with your venue and your wedding. I never thought I would book a venue and back out either ever ever! BUT here I am doing it, but couldnt be any happier about it! 🙂 You just have to do some soul searching, it will click and you will know what is right. And your day will be beautiful and perfect because you are 100% confident with whatever decision you end up making!