Post # 1
So, bees… I’m looking for some unbiased advice.
I am a graduate student (Elementary teaching intern). Since the summer after my sophomore year of undergrad I have worked non-stop. I have worked since my senior year of high school at the same place. The summer after sophomore undergrad year I have had a second job every summer, and held my job while taking full course loads. There was one point during my senior year that I had 3 jobs (babysitting, starting at a daycare before summer started, and my regular job as a florist) ON TOP of having a full course load. I’ve been a full time student, graduated with honors, and am now doing a full time graduate teaching internship (which includes night classes in my program). I have worked weekends and school breaks at my regular job since I started.
I’m not some money-chaser. Though I’ve lived with my parents my whole college career, I’ve had to completely pay my own way through school, my car, my insurance, etc. I’ve literally had to work that hard to make ends meet and to complete my degree.
I considered taking a second job this summer, before starting my regular full time job coming next fall. Now, I can’t decide if it’s selfish for me to just decide to work one job and FINALLY get weekends off. My mother seems to think that I’d be silly not to get a second job, simply because I could. I feel that I have earned the ability to work one regular job for a while. I am a Christian and have dearly missed attending church regularly with my fiance for the last few years. I have gone on the odd Sundays that I get off, but my hours last from before morning service to after evening service. I am torn between paying off loans early and getting to save some extra for my life with my fiance, and finally giving my body and soul a rest.
Honestly, what would you do?
Post # 3
I was in the same boat as you just last semester, and I’m only in undergrad. I tried to do everything and be everything all while doing my senior project and holding down two jobs as well as three separate offices for different clubs.
In retrospect, it is so not worth the sacrifice of your personal health and sanity. I was an absolute wreck by the end of my experience, and I was so burnt out that by the time Christmas break came around I was just a zombie. Christmas time is my favorite time of year and I could barely enjoy it because I was so numb from working 18 hour days all semester.
In my opinion, I think you should take a well-deserved break. You worked hard to do all of this by yourself, and it’s really no one’s business to say that you can’t. Take it while you can and enjoy it.
Post # 4
@misskittenn: Thank you. I’m always so hard on myself. I actually told my fiance last night that i was afraid people would judge me for just working 1 job. He made me feel much better when he said “No one is going to judge you for being normal. And you worked that hard in school so that you would only need to work one job.” Thank you for helping me see that it really is ok to take careof myself 🙂
Post # 5
Not selfish at all. You need some time for you. I’m a teacher and I don’t know what I’d do without my weekends (of course, I end up working for a good part of every weekend). One option you could think about is private tutoring. I do this a few days after school during the week. Not a huge time commitment, good money, and I set my own hours.
Post # 6
I always end up planning on weekends, too. Only thing is I live in a very poor rural area, and I highly doubt that anyone around here would pay to have a tutor. Its a great idea, I’m just in the wrong kind of area for that. Thanks for the idea! Maybe I could look online for someone in a neighboring city who needs a tutor.