- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
My fiancé and I are in our late 30’s, both have been married before, and both have children from previous marriages (ages 4-18). At first I really wanted a “real” wedding – a fancy, traditional affair, followed by a honeymoon in France. But after planning for months, I was so stressed out and not having any fun at all, that I started not sleeping well, fighting with my fiancé, and just being totally miserable. I completely changed my mind! Not only do I not want a big wedding anymore, I don’t even want a small wedding!
I just want to go to France, have a romantic (symbolic) ceremony in front of the Eiffel Tower in Paris, and enjoy our time together. They actually sell “elopement packages” to Paris, which includes EVERYTHING, right down to the hair appointment for the bride, and a chauffeured car with a photographer to drive us around Paris and take pictures in the most romantic places, and a romantic dinner for 2 with a wedding cake!!! How awesome is that? Completely stress-free! I am SUPER excited about this, and we are both looking forward to our special day.
Now, the PROBLEM! The kids just threw a fit!!! The teenagers (who were supposed to be the maid of honor and the best man) couldn’t care less about such a drastic change of plans (“whatever rocks your boat, mom”), but my 9-year-old daughter began BAWLING, and my 10-year-old son had tears in his eyes and was also super upset. She was really looking forward to being a flower girl, and he was excited to be a ring bearer, and both really wanted to be there with us when we exchange the vows… I promised to have a very nice family celebration after we return from France, with a dinner at a fancy restaurant and a mini-wedding cake, but they are still very upset and mad at us… They want to be there, at the ceremony, with a lot of people, etc…
I feel like the worst mother in the world! But if I do the “big production” thing, it just makes me completely miserable! That’s not what I want at all!
Has anyone else eloped without the kids?