- 3 years ago
This is the second marriage for both of us and we are not spring chickens by any stretch. He is 53, I am almost 41. We each have a daughter from our first marriages – his is 12, mine is 9.
I don’t think it matters as far as the invite wording goes – at all – but just in case that factors in – his daughter is with him 100% of the time (he is widowed), my daughter is with me 95+% of the time (I am divorced), her father sees her for a few hours maybe once every six weeks or so.
We are paying for our (hopefully) small ceremony and reception ourselves – other than my dress and the girls’ dresses – my mom said yesterday she really wants to pay for those (BEST.MOM.EVER!).
This is not going to be a fancy wedding, we are not fancy people. I have found an invite I LOVE on etsy and it will be perfect for the wording that I have my heart set on (subbing in names):
Elizabeth Ross and Georgie Stevens invite you to join them at the wedding of their parents
TOM & ANNABELLE
on _____________, 2015 at ____ p.m.
Address of Church
Cake reception to follow
I LOVE that. I cannot tell you how much.
Apparently FI was assuming that our parents’ names would be on the invitations and is not completely on board with the above wording.
I mean NO disrespect but I think at our ages, and given our situation, at this point, this marriage is about us and our girls and that our parents wouldn’t even expect to be on the invitation. I have already talked to my mom about this (as she is the only parent of the 3 living that is paying for any portion of anything) and she is GREAT with the wording and thinks that it is very sweet.
I’m willing to compromise, I’m not being a brat about this at all . . . just venting here . . . but I LOVE this wording and think it would THRILL our girls to have their names on the invitations. Granted it would be smaller and at the top, but still, they would be there.
I don’t even know what I’m looking for . . . thoughts? Am I crazy to think that parents can be left off the invite?