(Closed) Second Reception – how to pull it off?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You can really do whatever you want with this second reception. How formal is the venue? That might give you clues on dress and seating, etc.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@LittleAnn:  Honestly, it’s really up to you. It can be as formal or as informal as you like. You can wear a wedding dress or you can wear something else. If you feel like it is awkward and weird to have first dances and toasts, there’s nothing that says you have to do it. I’ve known couples who had three separate weddings with different parts of the family with multiple wedding dresses, and couples who just had a casual party with people who couldn’t make it after the fact. Just depends on what you want and possibly on the culture of the area/family.

Given it’s an increasingly international world and people are spread out all over the place, I think it’s going to get more and more common to have secondary parties in different parts of the country/world. I certainly know a lot of people who have done it that way.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I think you are correct that you don’t want his family to feel slighted.  You can do all the traditional stuff so they get photo ops and it gives you a chance to party all over again.  Yes it might feel like reception redo but remember its the first time for those guests.  I think venue two is quite cute.  You might really like the photos with a totally different vibe.  I get a carnival-ish feel from that photo. Fun!

Post # 7
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@LittleAnn:  

I’ve never been to a second reception, but here are my thoughts…

I would just wear a nice dress, not your wedding dress. I would probably not do all the specials dances, garter toss, bouquet, seating chart, etc. I would however, do a toast from you guys to thank them for coming and the if others wanted to do one, they can. I would definitely have a fun cake of some sort

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@LittleAnn:  

i was just thinking that would be a good way to allow others to do one if they’d like to without it being awkward or something, maybe? 

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m in the same boat…Fiance’s family is huge and out of town so we’re just inviting his aunts/uncles/step siblings/grandparents/and whatever family is down her to the wedding down here and we’re doing a “Celebratory Dinner” a week after.

 

I saw one really cute idea: Instead of wearing your wedding dress, go on craigslist/ebay and find a nice dress form/mannequin (like one you see on “say yes to the dress” when they feature the dress) and put your wedding dress on display at the second reception.  

 

For me, everyone knows you already had a wedding so I’m not tip-toeing around it as much as asking people to join us in celebration…without presents.

 

We’re going to try to re-use the centerpieces (sans flowers) and definitely have a guestbook.  If you can afford it, a photographer would be nice.

 

I suggest having the niceties of a reception without the formality.

 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hi, I am having a second reception as our main wedding is abroad and only close family and friends are coming. We have 40 guests at our destination wedding and have invited 170 to our second reception.

We are treating it as a ‘party’ rather than a second wedding. I am wearing my wedding dress again though as lots of people who aren’t coming to the destination wedding would like to see me in it. Also, who wouldn’t want to wear their wedding dress again – you’ll probably never have another reason to wear it!

We are having our wedding cake at the party, just because at our destination wedding there aren’t really enough guests to justify having a big cake, plus the hotel we’re having our wedding at has a ‘fake cake’ that we can pose with for photos etc.

Apart from that its going to be informal. We are having a buffet, a DJ and I’m hoping to book a band, but its just being held in a funtion room at a parish centre (not sure if you have them in the US). I won’t be having a bouquet, toasts or speeches, first dances, seating charts etc.

 

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