Post # 1
Quick question, my FI & I live 1,280 miles apart (but who counting!) We are getting married in my hometown at my church. Everyone from his hometown & church who can’t make it to the wedding are planning for us to do a 2nd reception. Very simple dinner type thing, meet and greet, at my new church (they have a reception hall). His family that couldn’t come, coworkers and even some of my friends and family out there.
I told them they can use any decorations I have from the wedding for the 2nd reception. My FI brought up very important question we forgot to bring up after we agreed to this. Who generally pays for this? Food, invitations etc. LOL His mom is very good at doing food for large groups on small budget, but I don’t want her working the whole time. (this is her only child and I want her to be apart of everything!) We just want to budget, but not certain what is proper.
Also who plans this? Should we wait till someone offers officially or should we just plan this ourselves? How long after the wedding do you plan this? Just wondering if anyone else has done this and their experience with planning.
Post # 3
@Jacquelinesc84: Since it’s a community event in the church, I think it would be fine to go potluck!
Or you guys could do partial catering–like get trays of ziti/chicken/whatever is cheap and warm, and make your own salads/cookies/cake!
Or you could have just a cake and punch reception! Or desserts only with a sweets table!
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: Brilliant idea! Potluck, what church doesn’t love a potluck! 🙂 I love the partial catering, idea. Simple stuff is what I prefer. Thank you for the ideas!
Post # 5
I would think his family would plan and host this, though I am making some assumptions there. I’d have your FI bring it up to her and see if she offers or starts thinking about specifics.
We did something similar, except as an engagement party. Our options were either that, or have a second reception in his hometown for family friends and “church friends” who wouldn’t travel to our wedding. We chose engagement party, but it was basically like a mini reception… much more planned out (and lovely) than we had ever anticipated! It was in his hometown church reception hall too. Sounds basically just like what you’re imagining!
At ours we did partial catering (heavy appetizer bar, and a candy/dessert bar that his mom put together herself) and it worked out great. Potluck would also be OK too, like totally acceptable! Especially if it’s at a church. His mom put together a slideshow, parents gave speeches, she put together a “guest book” picture frame to sign, etc. We also re-used wedding decor from my FI’s sisters’ weddings. It was seriously like a wedding-in-a-box 🙂
But I’d give up any hope that his mom won’t be working the whole time… lol. Even if you get it catered/partially catered/potuck… it’ll still be her church friends, her community, etc. My FI’s poor mom was absolutely wiped! (But wouldn’t show it!)
Post # 6
@galaxygray12: I ask my FI and he said that he was gonna try to ask, his mom was out of town at Ladies Retreat. When she got back he tried to bring it up. She said, Your aunt and I have your reception all planned!!! Just let us know who to invite! LoL I guess all the ladies were planning it on the drive. So I offered my decoration from the wedding and I guess that settles it! Lol that was easier than I thought! Lol