Post # 1
When we got engaged, my FI and I agreed on a civil cermony, as we don’t regularly attend church and he does not consider himself to be religous. Now I am having second thoughts. To give you some background, we are both baptized, and attended christian schools growing up and I attended church regularly until I was about 17. While I consider myself Christian, my FI is unsure of his view of religion. That being said he is open to getting married in a church if that is what is important to me.
The more I think about it, the more important it is for me to have my marriage blessed by god and get married in the church I grew up going to with my family. Will a church marry a couple where one individual is not religious or is that looked down upon? Do couples need to commit to attending church regularly once they have been married in the church or do they have looser expectations?
Post # 3
@missprairiebee: It generally depends on the church and denomination. Just ask the church you would like to. You may (again, depending on the denomination) may have to attend regularly during the engagement/after (or it might just be strongly recommended). You may have to take some sort of pre-marriage “counseling” sessions before, partly to wrok on things, and partly so the minister knows what you want/expect and what you can expect of him.
Post # 4
It definitely depends on the church. I know my church is super welcoming and relaxed about those situations, but some are not. I would ask around and try and find the one that suits you best 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks for your comments. I spoke with the minister at the church and she is very understanding and welcoming (rather than judgemental etc…as I was catastrophizing). We need to take marriage preperation classes, but I see that as a nice opportunity to reflect a bit more on who we are and what we want in our marriage. 🙂