(Closed) second thoughts on dress, wedding in 1 1/2 month!PLEASE help! Pic included

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What do I do??
    Keep the dress you purchased, its PERFECT for a beach wedding! : (63 votes)
    68 %
    That looks more like a summer everyday dress, buy a new one. : (27 votes)
    29 %
    Other, please write post below : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    18645 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It’s an adorable dress!  Go for it!

    Post # 4
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You picked that dress for a reason and it’s cute! 🙂

    Don’t let pre-wedding stress cause you to make a last minute change. I think it’s very bridal and sounds perfect for your venue! 

    Post # 5
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Keep it, it’s perfect for a beach wedding.  Do not let say yes to the dress get in your head, it can make you second guess.  Good Luck!

    Post # 6
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I don’t want to be the “bad influence” here, but me personally, I originally leaned towards a tea length dress and then realized I didn’t feel “bridal” in anything that wasn’t long.   I guess because I wear dresses all the time anyway, shorter and tea length, in everyday life, I felt the need for something full length and out of the norm from what I would normally wear.

    So I would want longer… do you think a longer dress would make you feel more “bridal”?  

    It’s an adorable dress though.  I don’t think you’d be disappointing anyone, Fiance or otherwise,  by wearing it but if you think that YOU will look back and wish you’d worn something else, then that’s something you have to decide.  And of course it depends on your budget!

    A dress that always struck me as perfectly bridal and perfect for a beach wedding was this one by Alfred Angelo: 




    Post # 7
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Don’t get hung up on what a wedding dress is “supposed” to look like. The one you picked is very pretty, and I think it’s going to look wonderful. 🙂

    Post # 8
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    if you want to feel more bridal you can get a long chapel veil.. that would make it seem as though the dress was long in the back..


    but if you are sincerely unhappy with it, you can get a floaty longer chiffon dress from davids bridal at a great price they have some for $99

    Post # 9
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’m sorry you’re having second thoughts. I do think your dress is more than cute! There’s no “should” or “should not” of wedding dresses, it’s entirely up to you. 

    However, if the dress you bought no longer makes you feel like a bride, or no longer makes you feel pretty, or if your fiance expects you to have a certain type of dress and you think he’ll be really disappointed, then maybe you can consider getting an inexpensive 2nd dress.  I’m having a beach wedding too and bought a gown, but wanted to change into something more casual for the reception.  I would suggest looking at bridesmaids gowns, but order them in white or ivory.  They won’t have a train but are just as pretty as gowns, and 1/4 the price! I was shocked at how inexpensive they were!!! 

    Check the preowned dress sites too — you can get a steal on a beautiful dress.  It’s too late to order a new dress – if anything, you could buy off the rack.

    Bottom line – this is your wedding and you’re only going to do it once.  I love your dress and it is totally appropriate for a beach wedding. But if you are going to regret wearing it, I think you should get another dress and maybe change into the short dress for the reception or dancing.

    Post # 10
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Hi date twin!

    I toyed with the idea of a tea length dress, but in the end decided to go for full length. I thought that tea length was more of a ‘summer or spring’ style.

    I also bought a dress in October of last year and decided that I COULD NOT wear it. I ended up selling it and buying a new one that was more ‘me’ about 2 weeks ago. Depending on your size/style preference, it is not that difficult to find a different dress if you chose to do so.

    I didnt even know this existed, but the designer I went with already had a dress in stock in my size and was able to ship it out. I got it less than a week later!!

    good luck with whatever you decide!!

    Post # 11
    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think it’s adorable. And there are plenty of ways of perking it up to make it feel more bridal-y. If you have the money to spend, and you’re really not happy, I see no reason not to shop for another dress, but the one you have already is lovely!

    You’ll feel like a bride no matter what on your wedding day.

    Post # 12
    5 posts
    • Wedding: July 2006

    I love that dress. I almost bought it for my vow renewal next year in Mexico! The reason I didn’t? I have no David’s Bridals close to me, and so I found an different dress that I loved at the mall near me. It’s actually supposed to be a Prom or Homecoming dress, lol!

    I had something similar happen to me though. I had brought my husband and 3 of my 5 kids with me when trying on dresses. I had narrowed it down to 2, and then wound up buying the one my husband liked (which was also about $50 cheaper than the other dress). Well, that night at home I couldn’t sleep because it really wasn’t the dress I had loved best and the store I bought it from has a strict no-returns policy. I was stressing big time, but took it back to the store the very next day and asked if I could exchange it for the other dress. It turns out they accept exchanges and now I’m 100% happy.

    The moral of this story? Go with your heart. Try this dress on again (you may not have had it on in a while) and then see how you feel. If it’s “the one” you’ll love it all over again. If not, well, that’s okay too and you have plenty of time to look for a new dress. 🙂 Good luck either way.

    Post # 13
    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, if that is NOT the dress, don’t stress. SHOP! NOW! At least you can see what’s out there. Nordstrom’s has some great wedding dresses (some of them aren’t “wedding”, but they look like it) online and they ship FAST.  Another idea may be to see who sells second-hand wedding gowns in your area. Any pretty, flowy white dress will fit the bill. Doesn’t even have to be in the “formal” section of the store. Good luck. You will look beautiful either way!

    Post # 14
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    The dress is beautiful, but it’s all about how you feel in it.  Everyone has second thoughts about their dress.  I am having a beach wedding and my dress is definitely not beach material, the train is long, it’s heavy, etc. and I had second thoughts about it, but in the end, it was the dress that I loved and wanted, so I’m 100% happy with it.  It’s what I wanted.  Do what you think is right.  If you really don’t think it’s the dress for you, then you better get shopping!  You could also get another long dress for the ceremony and use this dress as your reception dress.  Good luck! 

    Post # 15
    13 posts
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I love your dress and think it is perfect for a beach wedding! I think it’s natural to doubt your dress… I’m doing the same exact thing!

    Post # 16
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    i think the dress you have is perfect for the reception, but not for a ceremony of any kind. i would suggest you get a long flowy white dress… you can probably look online at bluefly.com for something that is a little more formal… have two dresses! if you buy one that’s not too over the top you can wear it again!

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