Post # 1
So, we are having a semi- destination wedding… all of our guests have anywhere from 5 minutes to a 2 hour drive. I live 11 hours away from where we are getting married, so I am doing everything long distance. When we began the wedding planning my mom did a lot of pressuring for us to have a morning wedding ceremony and an early afternoon reception so that people could be home by a resonable hour – we have a LOT of older family members coming. Well, now 3 months before the wedding I am freeking out that I made the wrong choice with an 11:00 ceremony and a 12:30 reception. I know that many of the family would be coming the night before, or staying for the night of the wedding. Originally I thought that we could spend time with family after the recpetion since we don’t live near anyone. Now that everything is booked and the invites are made, I wish that we could move the reception back. I tried to call the reception venue but they have another party later for the evening. I am upset that I listened to my mom in the beginning, and when I tried to talk to her about considering changing the time she FREEKED out and started yelling at me. Which is how many of our conversations about the wedding turn out because she doesn’t like my ideas or how FI and I are thinking. Maybe I am more upset with my mom than anything, but at this point, I don’t know.
Sorry to just rant, but this has been building up for so long inside of me I just had to get it out. Thanks bees!!
Post # 3
It’s way too late to change anything but I think that maybe you could move the celebration somewhere else for an afterparty so you can spend time with the people who don’t want to leave early? You can still have fun with them after the wedding!
Post # 4
I totally get it. Don’t worry, I think it’s actually cool because now you can have the best of both worlds! The older folks get to have their ceremony and reception early and the younger ones can stick around for the afterparty!
Look around the area where your reception is or where the hotel is…find a cool restaurant or bar and organize an informal “afterparty” at that venue. Reserve tables there or pick a place that you know won’t be too crowded so you’ll be sure there will be enough space for everyone. You can even informally mention it to friends and family and pick a time.
I would let things cool off for a while with your Mom. You can always mention it to her closer to the date.
Post # 5
I second the afterparty idea! And so you will have a whole day full of events, how wonderful! You will also get tons of pretty pics at different times of the day (morning sun, afternoon, sunset, evening), and in different settings. I got married at 1 PM, celebrated until 12 AM, and loved being a bride the whole day AND the night. First, I wanted a sunset ceremony, but now I couldn’t be happier with my early afternoon ceremony (you can’t imagine how fast the day goes by!). Don’t worry, dear, everything will work out just fine!
Post # 6
I’m sorry your mom bullied you into this decision! I agree with the above posters–don’t change it now but think about what the extra time in the afternoon/evening frees you up to do! Afterparty, photo portrait session, early flight for the honeymoon–there are lots of great options! I think once you have a plan for that time that you love, you’ll feel better about it.
Post # 8
I almost picked an early wedding JUST SO we could have an afterparty… but tons of our guests are flying 3+ hours into town, so J reminded me that evening would be easier for them.
It’ll work out; maybe you can make reservations at a club or restuarant or lounge for the afterparty?
Post # 9
I agree that having a less formal “afterparty” after your official reception could be a good option – the older guests probably would not attend, but it might give you more time with younger guests that are staying in town that day, anyway. I understand how you feel about your Mom – my experience with my own mom has been really similar. Hang in there!
Post # 10
Agree about the after party! And try to make the best of the time of day you chose. Can you gather outside, or have a cocktail hour outside? (Not sure if they have cocktail hours for early receptions.)
Post # 11
Thanks Bees for the words of encouragement. I was thinking that we could do some sort of after party or something like that. I think I will look into what we can do. Maybe it will work out we will leave for our honeymoon that day – since we haven’t booked anything yet..lol