- 5 years ago
I am geting remarried 🙂 🙂 Both our firsts were big affairs. And honestly, my first ended up feeling like a circus and not at all about me. This time I would be happy with with just us and our kids for the ceremony. Mine will be old enough to be my witness. I don’t need an audience. I want this to be 100% about us.
But he says his minimum is his mom, brother, sister-in-law and neices. I have no problem with that. They are all very nice people. And they are a close family.
In that case, will it look horrible if I don’t have my siblings? We’re not close. They didn’t even so much as write “Merry Christmas” on my son’s facebook page, never mind a card or gift (and yes, I got my neices and nephews all gifts, including my brother’s new wife’s kid). Neither called me for my birthday and I don’t expect a call for my son’s 18th birthday next week. I always call them. And this isn’t (anymore) bitterness. Just having them there would feel so fake. I want no fakeness.
If he is having his brother I want an emotional equivilent, and that would be my two closest girlfriends. I love them , they love me, they love him too, they love my son, my son loves them. They should be my sisters.
Can I do that?
My mom will be very upset. She lives in a fantasy world were we all get along. Rumours will fly through the family. My sister will be upset (even though she really obviously could give a rat’s ass about me, never calls me unless she needs something and basically has nothing to do with me).
How do I pull this off? I am completely willing to have a larger reception including all of them, because I have a circle of friends that I want to share the day with anyway.