Post # 1
I am getting married (for the 2nd time) in June. I didn’t want to have a wedding, but my fiance hasn’t been married before and his parents wanted a wedding, so I agreed to a small, intimate ceremony at their house. Now, 2 showers are in the works. I politely declined offers for the showers since I thought it was poor etiquette to have showers for a 2nd marriage, but they insist and say they wouldn’t have suggested it if they thought it was wrong. What do you think?
Oh…and they’ve asked me if I’ve registered? I think this would be poor etiquette also. I don’t people to think I’m greedy or anything.
Post # 3
You can always just do a very small simple registry at one store.
Maybe suggest having like a recipe shower were everyone brings a recipe instead of a gift?
Post # 4
That’s a good idea! Thanks Caszos.
Post # 5
My cousin had showers for her second marriage but 3rd wedding. The one shower was thrown by his family and friends which I get why they’d want to do something since it was his first wedding. The 2nd shower was thrown by our mom’s friends and they did it at a resturant and everyone paid for their own food/drinks except they covered the bride’s meal for the night. So it was nice because no one had to spend a lot of time or money on shower food/decorations.
Post # 6
I think that both a shower and registering are perfectly okay because this is the first time that you and your fiance are getting married. (If you were remarrying an ex, it might be a different story.) I’d request a simple shower–I think both of the ideas above are wonderful.
Don’t go overboard with the registry–only register for the things that you need or want. (i.e. don’t get china just because it’s on the checklist at a store.)
ETA: That’s the same registry advice I give EVERYONE, I get frustrated when I see people registered for way more than they could ever get from their wedding guests… It has nothing to do with a second wedding here!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I definitely think that both registering and having showers are perfectly acceptable for a 2nd wedding – enjoy!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies. I appreciate your input.