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    Kara321    August 2010  

    Hello hive!

    I saw a post last night from someone looking for that gorgeous Vera Wang dress that Carrie wore in Sex and the City: The Movie... and it reminded me how much I miss those girls, so I watched the movie last night.  Watching SATC used to be one of my FAVORITE things to do--it just makes me feel so urban and independent and chic (in spite of the fact that I am usually wearing sweatpants while I watch it).

    Anyway, my FI is moving in with me soon and I am scared that I won't have the time or the space or solitude to indulge in "secret singles behaviors," one of which, of course, is to put on sweat pants, make some chocolate milk and garlic cheese bread and watch SATC for hours on end.

    I am sure I'll work out my secret singles behavior issues, but I am curious--what are yours?!  Please share!

     
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    yogigal    June 27, 2009   Chicago (married in Philly)

    My FI watches SATC with me.  We watched the movie together last weekend nothing secret about that!!! Chocolate milk and garlic cheese bread on the other hand, may need to stay a secret Secret Singles Behavior :  wedding Icon Wink

    I think what I miss more then anything is my gossip time on the phone. Now that most of us are married, engaged or attached, I feel like those moments are few and far between.

    The one thing that I loved about my recent bachelorette was all the girls over at my place getting ready together and going out.  I really, really miss those times.  Now its me and FI getting ready to go meet up with other couples and him telling me not to change my outfit for the twentieth time!! 

     

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    bree72    December 31, 2008  

    Watching anything on the CW....now that we're married, I still try to secretly watch my shows, but I'm almost embarrased to let him know...Oh Gossip Girl, you haunt me so! It makes me wonder what his single secrets were...

     
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    tallgal    10.10.09  

    I have to say I really miss my alone time...is that bad?  I use to love to come and go as I wanted or stay out really late with my single lady friends just having fun.  I love doing so much together and I'm glad we already live together...but I miss my secret single behaviors. 

     
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    I also miss gossip time on the phone, though I try to fit it in! I would say wearing my pajamas while eating smores pop tarts or ice cream, but I do that anyway now. ;)

     
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    JennyBryde    September 18, 2010   Moline, IL

    Hmmm....definitely plucking.  I can't do it when he's around for some reason.  I also like to spend weekends in from time to time and just relax in my pjs all day.  I also love an occasional smokey treat, but with him quitting cold turkey, I feel like I should definitely NOT do this anymore... *sigh*

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I eat cookie dough straight out of the container in my men's pajama pants (hey they're long enough for me!) and a really baggy shirt with no bra on. Sometimes mis-matching socks, hair in a ponytail, and doing things like emailing while watching tv or getting up to eat stuff whenever I want. Picking a wedgie is definitely more acceptable in private, that's for sure. Oh and peeing with the door open! I have to start shutting it now when he's around. I also like watching Friends which he hates or those stupid reality shows on VH1 and MTV. And anytime my, er, GI tract likes to act up, boy it sure is nice to be all by yourself! THe cats don't complain near as much as the boy. TMI? maaaaaybe Secret Singles Behavior :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    CHK    July 10, 2010   Northern Idaho

    Oddly, sometimes I miss sleeping alone. Where I once had a queen bed and queen comforter to myself, I now have to share! I miss eating half a block of cheese for dinner, with a glass of wine and trash tv on without feeling silly. I miss silence!!! But really, other than those things, not much!

     
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    DC Anna    March 27, 2010   Live: Washington, DC; Wed: Atlanta

    I love having FI around. However our problem is that I never get time alone in the apartment for "secret singles time" (or, solo girls night in). :o) He gets the apartment alone on the nights when I have class (at least twice a week) or nights when I have to meet for a group project or something.

    We've decided to institute a policy where either one of us can request the apartment to themselves for a night with 24 hours notice. The other person has to skeedaddle! (This will be useful for him starting in the fall as I will be done with school and he'll be starting back up.) It's nice to know that you can still indulge in your secret singles behavior just by giving your FI a heads up that you want the apartment.

     
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    Taye    July 11, 2009   NYC/Alabama wedding

    Umm, I frequently dance around like a maniac with my headphones on. That's not something I'll ever do in front of anyone else. I eat whenever I want, and I leave the DVD or DVR on pause for hours while I do other things. Oh, and sometimes I like to stay up until 3 or 4 a.m., just for the heck of it. All of that has to end, unfortunately.

     
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    maryjane    September 9, 2009   Grand Forks, ND

    I don't paint my nails nearly as much as I used to. I don't have an secret behaviors to hide from Mr. MJ, but I don't like to do smelly things like nail painting because i don't want to irritate him with the smell. He says it doesn't bother him, though....

     
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    LaurenEB    May 16, 2009   Raleigh, NC, Upstate NY

    Being home and putting on TBS!

    I love it when I have an afternoon off from work and I can put TBS on and watch some of the shows I used to watch on prime time, like Everybody Loves Raymond, Friends, King of Queens and so on.  Or on the weekends when you can sit and watch all day movie marathons and not have to clean the house or do anything but sit there.  I like to put it on after work too but FI isn't as interested.

     
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    MissStellar    May 2, 2009   MI

    I've been living with my FI for over a year now, and honestly, not too much has changed.

    When I lived alone (and now), I ALWAYS change out of my work clothes RIGHT when I get home. I don't eat dinner first, or check my messages- I change into PJs! I like to be comfy! I also spend gobs of time online. At first, I think he was a little weirded out by how much time I spend online- but now he's totally used to it. He even calls me "google!!" LOL

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I'm going to miss going to bed after 11pm & sleeping in. My FI is up at 6am every morning regardless of what time he goes to bed. When we're together (we don't live together) we're in bed at 10:30pm and I'm up by 7 making breakfast.... even on weekends!!! It's annoying, but good for me... I guess. I will miss sleeping in until 9am on Saturdays & not have anyone judge me for sleeping in. lol

    I'm with ejs... my FI master bathroom is "open concept" as in.. has no door. Well there is but the toilet is a step away from the walk-in shower, which has a clear glass wall that you can see from the bedroom. We had a discussion: There's nothing sexy about seeing my FI use the restroom while I'm lying in bed. lol so he's decided to get the shower frosted. I'll miss the privacy for sure.

    Mmm & cookies for dinner. I'll miss that the most.

     
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    peeptoe    May 30, 2009   San Francisco, CA

    Ha ha. I do almost all my single activities in front of the Mr- much to his chagrin. I do sometimes miss having my own bed. But being home sick today- it felt too cold. We do have a strict policy about keeping the bathroom door shut while you are doing your business.

    And every now and then he totally indulges me and lets me watch chick flicks all night!! That's the best. It's all about keeping a balance. Every now and then I leave him home for the afternoon to do whatever he does?? Watch sci fi TV- I have no idea- I don't usually ask. 

     
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    beagle    October 24, 2009  

    Haha, we have the same policy Peeptoe. :)  I have restrained from spreading my girly stuff all over the bathroom, ... I try to make room for his stuff too.  I don't paint my toenails as often and we actually have meals together at the table..I used to love eating tomatos, cheese and sourdough bread with a glass of wine for dinner on the couch when I lived alone.

    Mr. Beagle is really good about letting me have "me time"... which usually involves spending time in my craft room, reading, or shopping. Secret Singles Behavior :  wedding Icon Biggrin  This is definitely a must for our relationship... I tend to get crabby if I don't get time alone.

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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    Hmm... I used to have secret single behavior. Then I put that on hold for a bit, but now that we've been living together I think everything is out in the open! I used to pretend I didn't care about American Idol, and now we watch it together.

    I think the only thing I try to keep private is some of my grooming. I still want him to think I'm low-maintence, so I hide a few products under the sink.

    Good topic!

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    Kara321 -- lol I did the SAME THING this morning, rewatched SATC movie because of the post on the dress. What a riot.

    As for my SSB -- going through old magazines (fashion or food) and rip out things I love while watching SATC, Grey's or HIMYM. I also like to put on music and dance around as I do chores. FI has seen me do this and thought I was nuts.

     
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    My FI has class every Wednesday evening, and he doesn't get home until 10.  I love those nights because I make myself a big bowl of pasta with spinach and mascarpone (I love it he hates it), pour myself a glass of red wine, listen to Eva Cassidy and sing along really loud, and then watch Ghost Hunters until I fall asleep.  

     It.is.awesome.

     
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    KateMW    8.30.03   Birmingham

    My husband teaches on Mondays and we always have junk food for dinner and watch bad reality TV. Yay!

     
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    kosstobe    April 30, 2010   Philadelphia

    We don't live together yet but when we do move in together in a few months, I know I'm going to miss eating appetizers (apples & cheese, for example) as dinner.  I'm sure I'll miss watching "girly" shows on TV too.

     
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    CluelessBride    5/1/10   NY

    something must be definitely wrong with me then..i live with my fiance..and i still do all the things that are considered "secret singles behavior"...i have no shame Secret Singles Behavior :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    i love to watch the bachelor

     
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    WestTXperfection       Texas

    I am right there with clueless bride! I lived with my FI before we got married and I did everything the same! I watch gossip girl, the hills, even say yes to the dress! lol also when it's that time of the month and I am not very nice he makes everything that I like to eat that I would have had to make myself like cheese fries! sometimes I go to 4 different places for dinner.. Well breadsticks from olive garden, pasta from carinos, desert from cheesecake factry that kind of thing! lol crazy and nutty and I can't even eat 1/3 of it but he still does it! be yourself! don't hide it! he has asked you to marry him... he's got to see the ( OMG! i can't believe I did that in front of him ) real single/engaged/married you sometime!

     
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    anniebear    August 15, 2010   Toronto, ON

     

    My secret singles behaviour is buying lots of junkfood and pigging out while watching my DVD collections. My fiance is a major health freak so this behaviour usually makes him shake his head. We have lived together for a while now, so that behaviour of mine has been kind of abolished, just because he lectures me about nutrition allll the time. Although, I still do it every now and then for myself, CluelessBride - I'm like you, I have no shame, lol.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    Haha I really don't hide anything from FI, I'm very much an open book! I think we talk about our bathroom sessions a little too easily for people who don't kids - and we've had the "do you think its normal that we talk about poo and farting this much BEFORE we have kids??" talk more than once.  Guess that's why we're meant to be....

    The only thing I really miss is the court tv and other reality shows he can't stand. Oh and painting my toenails in the same room as him. He hates the smell

     
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    djmaddiebluedog    06/06/09   Connecticut

    Ha!  why do you think i am commenting on this board at almost 1am??  my guilty pleasure is wedding bee - and i only log on when he goes to sleep.  :-)

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    ES123    April 25, 2009   Laurel, MD

    When we first moved in together, there were things I swore he would never see me do - nothing bad, just secret stuff (like, picking at split ends semi-obsessively). But, after over a year of living in the same small apartment, those rules are out! I don't think either of us has any secrets anymore.

     
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    mouse    September 11, 2009   Austin, TX

    I watch America's Next Top Model--my fiance has actually watched a ton of it on accident when he was in the room.  He even watched the end of one episode when I was out of town! 

     
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    lostinthemission       cleveland

    After living with my FI for so long nothing is a secret. I don't use hairspray or perfume as much, or near him... it bothers his allergies. He doesn't have his computer in our room because I am light sleeper. I get to have mine in our room. He will watch Jon and Kate plus eight with me and has sat down to spend time with me while I'm watching a Say Yes to the Dress marathon. When I lived alone I would drink out of cartons and bottles of pop. I stopped that habit. I also ate only organic, I stopped that habit too.

     

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