Post # 1
I am getting married in September. This wedding is no secret – about 300 of our closet family and friends will be present to help us celebrate 🙂
However, has anyone had a private, ‘secret’ courthouse marriage done prior to your ‘real wedding’?
I am hesitant to do so, but the oh so romantic reason of HEALTH INSURANCE has come into play. I recently lost mine, and cannot afford to go 8 months without. And the FI has really really good coverage.
I do not like the fact of getting married before our wedding date, but think it is going to be of major importance to go down to the courthouse and try and keep it quiet.
My mom said it can be the ‘business’ ceremony and then come September our wedding day can be the ’emotional’ ceremony. I am just worried that it will take away from the importance of our big day. (But staying healthy and insured is pretty important too…)
Post # 3
Also – curious if you did this. Did you tell anyone before? Did anyone find out?
Post # 4
I definitely think you should make sure that you are insured and if the best way to do that is to get married at the courthouse now instead of waiting until your September ceremony – than do that!
That said – I wouldn’t keep it some big secret. Your friends and family are going to understand why you needed to have the “business” ceremony (as your mom put it) early. They’ll still support you and be happy to celebrate with you in September but IMO deserve to know that you are already married.
Post # 5
I think you getting sick/injured and being uninsured is going to put a much larger damper on your September wedding than a simple quick ceremony now would. Don’t mess with your heath – get the insurance! Your wedding day will still be big and important – I promise!
Post # 6
I say do a personal, intimate, Courthouse shin-dig. You can still make it memorable and personable! Wear a cute/special dress, maybe you could re-wear for your Rehearsal, etc.
We are talking about this as well. Since our wedding date has no real significance rather than it being most convenient and budget friendly for us. So I asked FI if he rather “actually get married on a specific date” or wait til the actual wedding date, we’re still debating. =)
I see no problem with it, as to whether you announce it or not that is up to you and how you think others will take it. All families are different!