Post # 1
My fiance is a very private person, and mostly I am too, but I have kind of a big mouth. I loooove to tell my mom and family members things, but because of my fiance I keep it all in until the big surprise day.
For intance, I’d really like to dish about details I’ve figured out, about the wedding, here to the hive, but I know fiance would be so upset and feel like someone will take our ideas. I feel weird even posting pictures because I don’t want anyone to see anything until the big day.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I TOTALLY struggled with this while I had my own personal blog. After becoming a bee, I decided not to include posts about my dress, hair/makeup, etc on the personal blog — which Mr. Bruschetta checks regularly. So, I send them to Pengy for posting on WB, and hopefully, the elements neither of us want the mister to know about (really, just my look for the day), will remain a secret.
I also worried about spoiling surprises for guests, but then realized that there’s SO much to notice during a wedding, and my posts might actually help our guests appreciate all the work and details that have gone into the day!
Post # 4
I like to discuss most details with my fiance, my mom, and my bridesmaids. My fiance doesn’t know/want to know my dress/look, but other than that he knows everything. I’ve learned from a recent experience with my very friendly (to EVERYONE) and VERY TALKATIVE MIL to limit what we tell her. She justs ends up sharing details with everyone and for some reason it bothered me that people knew some things about our wedding ahead of time. I know she didn’t mean any harm, it’s just her personality to talk to everyone about everything. We aren’t doing anything really new by any means, but some of it is new/out of the ordinary to the area in which the wedding is taking place. I feel kind of bad about it, but I’d like something to be new news to those attending!
Post # 5
The only real secret I kept for my wedding was our reception entrance and exit. No one knew that we wouldn’t be walking in right after the bridal party, instead we popped out on a balcony from upstairs and guests noticed because lighting in the room shifted, it was awesome because we got a standing ovation and the guests loved the surprise. We also had a sparkler exit and no one in my family had seen that before, so they had fun with it.
Post # 6
I’m not really keeping any secrets. Even my wedding dress is hanging up in our shared closet.
In my case, I’m doing things totally low-key, so I wanted to check with FI to make sure he didn’t have any latent desires to see a long white dress and veil and to do some other traditional wedding things. I also try to share things with my mom but it’s hard since she’s not local.
Post # 7
I feel like I should!!! But I can’t really help myself if someone specifically asks, for example, what my dress looks like. It’s usually people taht aren’t coming to the wedding, or my bridesmaids. I’ve shared EVERYTHING with my mom and bridesmaids, right down to "look what jewelry i’m wearing!" b/c i want them to feel connected and involved with me, not just "Here, come stand with me!"
But honestly, once it all comes together, that is the big surprise!
Post # 8
I’m not being secretive about anything – I’m posting it all on my blog, including my dress (though my FI doesn’t read my blog, so that is the one secret I’m keeping, but only from him!) *lol* I think, as Miss Bruchetta said above, it’s a great way to share the details, etc. with your guests!
Post # 9
I’m forwarding many photos of most everything to my mom, his mom and my bridesmaids. But everyone is in different locations, so it’s my way of keeping them involved. Plus, sharing ideas of how I’m putting things together helps out my recently engaged friends. I always look for critique to make things better, and sometimes if everything is a secret things can miss the mark because they’ve been locked in your head for too long without feedback. Besides, if someone steals an idea, it’s the greatest form of flattery! Unless they screw it up…hehe
Post # 10
I’ve chosen a few key bits of the day to keep a secret from everyone. I don’t want people to be there and say, oh yeah, there’s that thing, and oh, look, there’s that. I want them to say OH! Look! There’s THAT! Haha.
FWIW, our "big thing" right now is we’re having an ice cream truck drive up as the ceremony is letting out, so people can enjoy an ice cream cone on the front lawn. After my college graduation ceremony ended, they did that and my family still talks about how it was the perfect treat. We may nix it if it gets too cold (wedding is in October) but that’s the plan for now.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
We’ve got the biggest secret of all… our WEDDING DATE! This is such a struggle for us. Only our parents and one friend know the date.
@Grey56 – I love the ice cream truck idea!!
Post # 12
I get so excited when I come across a cute & new idea, that I share it! So no secrets are really kept from my mom, BMs, and other guests that I talk to on a regular basis. Like for example, I’ve been showing everyone what I’m thinking for our invitations, I don’t know why, but I don’t care if everyone saw them before they go out in the mail, but I know many others are very particular about that 🙂
Pretty much the only secrets I am keeping are from my FI, I don’t want him to see my dress and he doesn’t know what song I am walking down the isle to, its a surprise for him!!
Post # 13
I have only shared my blog with about 10 wedding guests (most very close friends and family). Those who read my blog will know everything, but I kept the blog secret from most people I know partly to not spoil the surprise and partly because for whatever reason a bunch of strangers reading my wedding planning blog seems less invasive than people i know reading my wedding blog (i.e. open to more close criticism)
Post # 14
I am terrible at keeping our wedding quiet, so the only secrets I have are my dress and FI’s wedding gift, and he’s the only one who doesn’t know about those!
Post # 15
omg i love that ice cream idea! i want to pitch it to my FI although he’ll think it’s silly since our venue gives us "free" (ie built into the cost) appetizers as their gift to us
Post # 16
I’m a terrible secret-keeper, so pretty much nothing is a secret about our wedding. The only thing I have done is keeping my actual wedding dress a secret from my fiance. He doesn’t know what it looks like, but pretty much everyone else has seen it.