Post # 1
I am going to have a secular ceremony in a garden…well…a designed backyard of the officiant’s house. I would like to add a bit touch of my ceremony after we exchange vows and rings. I need some help here!
I am thinking about a rose ceremony, sand ceremony, or releasing butterflies. There are pros and cons for each one and I need to advice here!
1. Rose Ceremoney: fits the garden envirement, romantic, but hard to preserve our first gitft to each other- roses. Cost is cheap.
2. Sand Ceremoney: pretty symbolic of our new life together, but does not fit the garden environment(?). Cost a bit more to get the sand and vases.
3. Releasing butterflies: fits the garden envirenment, romantic & I like the spritual ideas. Cost a lot to get the butterflies and I am afraid they will die during the shipping.
What do you guys think? Which one will you pick?
Thanks a lot!
P.S. I think my venue is ugly and I feel bad about it…Maybe it is because I took the pics during winter time? I really want to change to other places but it will cost more… 🙁
Post # 3
First, the venue is beautiful and will look amazing on your wedding day so try not to worry about that.
Second, I’m going with “other”. Have you considered a Seed ceremony? Like sand, but you use seeds.
ETA: If you do decide to go with the Rose ceremony, consider having your flowers dried and preserved in a painting.
Post # 4
Aw, the venue isn’t bad at all! I can see it being very romantic. I do like the rose idea because of the venue…. what about writing letters to one another and placing them in a fancy box to read on your first anniversary? I know people who did that, it was so sweet!
Post # 5
No I have not think of seed ceremony…I google it but I can only find “seed favors”. Should I just get different colors of seeds and 3 vases?
Post # 6
@LittleBruin: I believe so. A friend of mine was debating between doing seeds and herbs. Eventually she went with herbs, but her plan was to have a cylindrical vase (doesn’t need to be too big) with the seeds or bulbs in small containers around it that they’d use to pour the different seeds into the larger container during the ceremony.
Post # 7
We did a handfasting with a wreath of flowers. We still have it, we just dried it and now its hanging on the wall. Easy as pie.
Oh, and I voted for the rose ceremony. You dont need to really preserve the roses though. From what Ive read, the way you keep the tradition alive is to pick a spot and to take 2 roses there every year on your anniversary, to commemorate your marriage.
Also, you could always plant the rosesif you wanted to keep them. DHs grandmother took the bouquet I gave her home. She cut the stems and planted them, now she has the roses from our wedding growing in her house. She promised to give me one bush, if she gets more than one plant from it.
Post # 8
You can plant the rose stems!? I never know that!! I will google it!
I just want to keep the first rose as a keepsake. We will still give each other roses on anniversary. 🙂
Post # 9
Don’t do butterflies! There’s another post on here somewhere where I read all these horrific stories about the butterflies dying during shipping, being crushed before they are released, or being preserved wrong so that they are just too weak to fly once they are released. Imagine how horrible it would be to release the butterflies and they all just fall out dead or dying–not to mention the cruelty to the poor little critters!
I would do the sand ceremony. Then you can keep it as a memento and I actually think the sand would go well with the garden feel.
I think your venue is beautiful. During the summer it is probably alive with flowers, bees, and butterflies!
Post # 10
There are many great butterfly companies and any reputable one will ship them in crushproof, safe containers. Transit shouldn’t be a problem if you’re using one of these companies.
Post # 11
I don’t have any recommendations for the ceremony, but your venue looks like it’s going to be gorgeous.
Post # 12
What about a winebox ceremony?
Post # 13
I agree with @PitBulLover: winebox ceremony. I’m looking into doing this. You put a bottle of wine and 2 letters (one that you write to your FH and one he writes to you) into a box, seal it and open it in 1, 5, 10.. years. Just make sure you talk to a wine expert on what wine to get. You can write the letters before hand so they are ready to place into the box on the big day:)
Post # 14
But the thing is we don’t drink a lot. I can not drink due to health reason and Fiance does not drink a lot…. 🙁
Post # 15