(Closed) Secular Ceremony, Need Help!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Which form of ceremony in a backyard garden after changing vows & rings?
    Rose Ceremony : (9 votes)
    47 %
    Sand Ceremony : (3 votes)
    16 %
    Releasing butterfliers : (5 votes)
    26 %
    Other (Please give a comment down below..) : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    First, the venue is beautiful and will look amazing on your wedding day so try not to worry about that.

    Second, I’m going with “other”. Have you considered a Seed ceremony? Like sand, but you use seeds.

    ETA: If you do decide to go with the Rose ceremony, consider having your flowers dried and preserved in a painting.

    Post # 4
    1124 posts
    Bumble bee

    Aw, the venue isn’t bad at all! I can see it being very romantic. I do like the rose idea because of the venue…. what about writing letters to one another and placing them in a fancy box to read on your first anniversary? I know people who did that, it was so sweet!

    Post # 6
    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    @LittleBruin: I believe so. A friend of mine was debating between doing seeds and herbs. Eventually she went with herbs, but her plan was to have a cylindrical vase (doesn’t need to be too big) with the seeds or bulbs in small containers around it that they’d use to pour the different seeds into the larger container during the ceremony.

    Post # 7
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We did a handfasting with a wreath of flowers. We still have it, we just dried it and now its hanging on the wall. Easy as pie.

    Oh, and I voted for the rose ceremony. You dont need to really preserve the roses though. From what Ive read, the way you keep the tradition alive is to pick a spot and to take 2 roses there every year on your anniversary, to commemorate your marriage.

    Also, you could always plant the rosesif you wanted to keep them. DHs grandmother took the bouquet I gave her home. She cut the stems and planted them, now she has the roses from our wedding growing in her house. She promised to give me one bush, if she gets more than one plant from it.

    Post # 9
    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Don’t do butterflies!  There’s another post on here somewhere where I read all these horrific stories about the butterflies dying during shipping, being crushed before they are released, or being preserved wrong so that they are just too weak to fly once they are released.  Imagine how horrible it would be to release the butterflies and they all just fall out dead or dying–not to mention the cruelty to the poor little critters!

    I would do the sand ceremony.  Then you can keep it as a memento and I actually think the sand would go well with the garden feel.

    I think your venue is beautiful.  During the summer it is probably alive with flowers, bees, and butterflies!

    Post # 10
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    There are many great butterfly companies and any reputable one will ship them in crushproof, safe containers. Transit shouldn’t be a problem if you’re using one of these companies.

    Post # 11
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t have any recommendations for the ceremony, but your venue looks like it’s going to be gorgeous.

    Post # 12
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    What about a winebox ceremony?

    Post # 13
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I agree with @PitBulLover: winebox ceremony. I’m looking into doing this. You put a bottle of wine and 2 letters (one that you write to your FH and one he writes to you) into a box, seal it and open it in 1, 5, 10.. years. Just make sure you talk to a wine expert on what wine to get. You can write the letters before hand so they are ready to place into the box on the big day:)

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