- 2 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
I am an atheist and my Fi is definitely an agnostic-atheist. We both make fun of religion as much as any other couple who don’t give two crackers about religious dogma. Seriously, we have actually bonded over our lack of belief in a deity and the insanity that typically ensues from those who do believe. Now I have always been polite and respectful of my families beliefs, I never make a fuss when every single year on Thanksgiving and Christmas we all hold hands in a circle and pray to Jesus for something or other. But that’s just it, my WHOLE family is very religious, well with the exception of quite a few people on my Mom’s side of the family who aren’t practicing and don’t take it very seriously, they just quietly believe in a God which is fine. I have no problems with that.
My dad’s side though, they are all Catholic, they all make a big deal about prayers and religion. I have two living grandparents too, my Mom’s Mom and my Dad’s Dad and they are very religious, because they were raised and indoctrinated deeply into it, so you know, I get it. But I just worry that they are going to make a big deal about it at OUR wedding. We don’t want any mentions of God or Jesus or anything religious because we don’t believe in it and we both think Christianity is a very messed up religion.
My dad kinda makes it a problem too. I flat out told him the other day, “Sorry Dad, I just don’t believe in God, I’m not religious, nobody can prove a God or any other deity exists for that matter and so you’ll just have to forgive me for being totally skeptical.” Then he just says to me, “I just wish you were more religious.” Like he didn’t even hear me flat out say “I don’t believe in God.” *sigh*
We picked a date and we’re not even getting married until November of next year but I am already having anxiety at the idea of getting my super religious families (let alone two families from a horrible divorce together, DOUBLE TROUBLE!) at a wedding where there will be no mention of God or Jesus anywhere. I just want to be prepared if I have to deal with my family being ashamed of us not beliving in the Christine doctrine.
I’m excited and I want this wedding but at the same time I just wish I had families with more open minds and sometimes I just want to pack it up and elope with my hunny to avoid all the potential drama that may ensue between my two families. =(
I actually pressured my hunny for the longest time to just go to a court house and get married, cut the family out of it, only have our parents there and two friends, it’d save money, it’d be totally secular and I’d be able to avoid the devoutly Christian family and their judgemental gazes. But he really wanted a real weddng, which I thought was so sweet (and now he’s got me super excited about it). How often is it that the guy wants the wedding and the girl just says, “Screw it! Let’s go to Vegas and drive thru wedding!” lol