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Seeing FI before the wedding.

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    Quietserenity    October 16, 2010   Arizona

    Okay, so we live together.  We have for two years (since 4 months after we met, for the record!)  We live in Ohio, the wedding will be in Indiana.

    I asked FI if he wanted to be surprised by my dress, if he wanted us to sleep in the same room the night before the wedding, and he said "Why wouldn't we?"

    I mean, realistically, I guess there's not a reason not to.  We'll be staying in one of my mom's houses an hour away from the ceremony site, while my mom, stepdad and grandma will be staying in the other.  (at the ceremony site.  As an aside, two houses?  How jealous am I?)  So, we'll have to drive there together anyway.

    I guess I'm just worried about eliminating any sort of magic.  I can get dressed at the ceremony site, so any sort of "first look" will be me coming into the family room with him already out there.

    Unless you bees have any other suggestions?  Yes, we have to be practical, but I'd still love him to have at least a moment of..."wow."

     
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    I think first look can be "wow" even if you have to drive together! Can you pull your dress on alone? If not, someone's going to have to be there, right? Get them to take some pictures!

    On the other hand, you could blindfold him and be the one to drive! That might be kind of fun...

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    My husband and I slept together the night before, he saw me after I got my makeup done, and after my hair done, and there was still a wow when we had our first look!

     
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    Quietserenity    October 16, 2010   Arizona

    LOL Laboroflove, I could, but I have a horrid sense of direction, I'd never get us there.

    When i first moved to this city, he had to send a coworker to come find me because I was so lost and couldn't find the highway.

     

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    I think there will still be a wow moment no matter how you do it, because when you're both all ready to go, it's going to be the moment you realize, this is it!  i think it will be special, romantic and amazing no matter how you do it!

     
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    What if you were both blindfolded when you came out of the room and had a special moment together in the living room? That might be nice. :)

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    I like the idea of a first look before the actual ceremony, and really, does it matter where that happens?

     
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    KellyV    September 12, 2009   New York, NY

    So, then FI and I lived together before the wedding too.  And we slept together the night before the ceremony, had breakfast together, then did a first look.  When he turned around and saw me at the first look, it was defiitely a moment of WOW.  Just because its not at the altar doesnt mean its any less special.  Plus the first look is usually just the bride and groo, its nice to have it be jsut the two of you for that =o)

     

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