Post # 1
I have read similar instances in a few posts, so I know I’m not the only one…. 🙂
Recently it seems like every idea I have wanted for my wedding for years is being used by just about everyone else!! Does anyone else ever feel like this? I mean, I know I’m not the only person in the world who will want to use yellow and orange as my colors, but I swear every wedding I see lately uses at least one, if not both of these, and orange NEVER seemed to be a common color choice! I was recently at a wedding which used not only those colors (plus red), but she had basically the EXACT dress I have been describing to my sisters and close friends that I wanted (we didn’t know the bride that well, so I know nobody told her). It didnt help that at one point in the reception my Boyfriend or Best Friend leaned over and said, “Her dress is the first one I have seen on a bride in a while that I actually really like”–GREAT! He COULD have seen it on me, but now I don’t think I can get it since the groom is in the same group of friends that we are (and all of our friends attended, too). Plus, at the SAME wedding they had tons of other things I have always wanted (and remember, they are in the same group of friends as us, so if we did it, they might all think we were copying): yellow calla lilies as the boutineers, sparklers as they left the church (yes, I know a lot of ppl have done this, but none of the weddings we had been to yet), even the song they cut the cake to was the SAME ONE i had planned on using!!! Similar instances seem to be happening not only at that wedding, but now in pictures I see on FB of other weddings and in other places. I am seeing girls with my other choice of dress all the time, the ring style I have veen in love with for AGES, which was never really that popular, or the same colors I want to use, etc. Also, the place I have wanted to use for my reception hall, which was literally unheard of a year or two ago, is now apparently a hot venue that everyone wants to use…
I know I can’t be too upset bc it’s not like they deliberately “stole” the idea from me, and I know many of these ideas are used every day all over the world, but they all feel a little like salt in the wound, you know? It also makes me want to tell my Boyfriend or Best Friend, “Hurry up so we can use my ideas before it looks like I copied off of everyone!!” Does anyone else feel like this??
Post # 3
honestly, i know it’s super frustrating now, but i’d take a deep breath and try not to get too worked up about it. i also had a lot of ideas for the wedding before we got engaged, but a lot of them went out the window as soon as my now husband and i actually started planning together. partially because the wedding was about both of us and not just my ideas, and partially because some of the ideas just didn’t end up working in a practical sense for the time of year and venues we chose. like, i really liked a color combination he wasn’t such a fan of, and my dream idea of an outdoor venue just didn’t work in the very hot summer, which was the best date for us in our situation. and my dream venue turned out to be kinda blahh when i saw it in person. what matters most is that the time and situation fits you and your bf best, and the details will work themselves out when the time is right. our wedding turned out very different from what i originally planned in my head before he proposed, and it turned out perfectly.
Post # 4
I think it’s natural to feel upset when an idea you’ve had for a while gets used by other people, because then you can’t be the “first one” to debut it to your friends. A good friend of mine is getting married next year and started talking about a New England beach theme- something I had wanted for a year or so. I breathed a sigh of relief when she picked a color scheme I wouldn’t use (because my boyfriend doesn’t like one of her colors).
To a certain extent there’s only so many ideas out there, so there will be repeats. If you’re concerned about being original just keep looking at inspiration and you’re sure to find new ideas. But also, people won’t remember details like the cake-cutting song and some of the specifics. Just stay true to yourself. You’ll have all the photos of your own wedding and when it reflects you and what you like, that’s what you’ll remember- not that your friend Suzy had a similar gown.
Post # 5
Ha! This happened to us, too! We started to plan our wedding before we were officially engaged because we had discussed a timeline and everything. Then the proposal was pushed back a year due to illness, and it seemed suddenly, everyone was using ideas that I thought we were really original!
For example, we TOTALLY planned on passing out mini chalkboards to everyone for goofy message photos. There were a bunch of others, too.
Oh well! Just keep in mind that most of the trends you see on wedding blogs don’t often happen most “normal” weddings. Like, we had a candy buffet, which is so common right now, but so many of our guests had never seen one before.