(Closed) Seeing other weddings with the ideas I’ve wanted for a long time!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

honestly, i know it’s super frustrating now, but i’d take a deep breath and try not to get too worked up about it. i also had a lot of ideas for the wedding before we got engaged, but a lot of them went out the window as soon as my now husband and i actually started planning together. partially because the wedding was about both of us and not just my ideas, and partially because some of the ideas just didn’t end up working in a practical sense for the time of year and venues we chose. like, i really liked a color combination he wasn’t such a fan of, and my dream idea of an outdoor venue just didn’t work in the very hot summer, which was the best date for us in our situation. and my dream venue turned out to be kinda blahh when i saw it in person. what matters most is that the time and situation fits you and your bf best, and the details will work themselves out when the time is right. our wedding turned out very different from what i originally planned in my head before he proposed, and it turned out perfectly.

Post # 4
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it’s natural to feel upset when an idea you’ve had for a while gets used by other people, because then you can’t be the “first one” to debut it to your friends. A good friend of mine is getting married next year and started talking about a New England beach theme- something I had wanted for a year or so. I breathed a sigh of relief when she picked a color scheme I wouldn’t use (because my boyfriend doesn’t like one of her colors). 

To a certain extent there’s only so many ideas out there, so there will be repeats. If you’re concerned about being original just keep looking at inspiration and you’re sure to find new ideas. But also, people won’t remember details like the cake-cutting song and some of the specifics. Just stay true to yourself. You’ll have all the photos of your own wedding and when it reflects you and what you like, that’s what you’ll remember- not that your friend Suzy had a similar gown. 

Post # 5
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Ha! This happened to us, too! We started to plan our wedding before we were officially engaged because we had discussed a timeline and everything. Then the proposal was pushed back a year due to illness, and it seemed suddenly, everyone was using ideas that I thought we were really original!

For example, we TOTALLY planned on passing out mini chalkboards to everyone for goofy message photos. There were a bunch of others, too.

Oh well! Just keep in mind that most of the trends you see on wedding blogs don’t often happen most “normal” weddings. Like, we had a candy buffet, which is so common right now, but so many of our guests had never seen one before.

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