- 5 years ago
It’s been almost 6 years and our relationship was not moving forward at all…
I think it was about a month ago that I really started implementing Mr.Bee’s methods. To start off, I told him that it takes two to lead a great relationship and I am glad that the engagement didn’t happen when he did not wanted it from his heart. I said this in a loving way not in a mean way, so he didn’t feel bad. This was to just to draw some lines and set up some boundaries that did not exist because I wanted to be engaged and be married so much more than he did while he’s totally comfortable staying still.
Then I started seeing him way less(although we did LDR for 3 years), focusing more on my life, meeting up with friends more, basically getting back to MYSELF. It was not easy at first, but my work has been very busy so it helped me. Basically I started living life as if I was a single. In the beginning it was to make him realize that I am an individual who is worth of her bf’s commitment etc etc, but after few weeks of pretending to be one, I realized that I really enjoy being in the center of mylife and focusing on the things that are important to me. It’s much more fulfilling than ever. My envious feeling about people getting married and engaged left and right (it’s about that age…) was disappearing. I never mentioned or bring up about that subject to my bf even when it was natural. So as Mr. Bee said, all our future talk stopped. I wasn’t the woman who is just brining up this uncomfortable subject to attack the peaceful weekend anymore… hahaha..
Last weekend, we met a mutual friend of ours. He was dating a lady who we also knew, and when were taking about some other friend who is getting married, he announced that he also got engaged and invited us to his wedding. I instantly knew that my bf was in deep shock that this mutual friend decided to get engaged(!!!, yes the friend was a loner type who did not seem to get married so soon), so now two of his friends will get married soon. I never thought that I would see any changes in him (it was that bad), and told myself I might even be okay without him and able to move on without him etc. But on that day, I said “it’s nice that everything worked out for them… sometimes I wish that it was okay for us to just be happy and be able to celebrate openly about our friends getting married.”
Then he sent me a message that night saying “I had a very nice weekend with you. I think I am getting better at being more mature and more ready to talk about our relationship.”(!!!) He’s planning trips with me and started saying words like ‘We are a team’,’You look very nice’,’You look happier than ever’,’I really like your hairstyle…’ etc etc…
I know this is was the way it’s supposed to be, and now I am back into the balanced life, things are looking a lot better. Mr.Bee’s plan is not just the way to get engaged, but to become a balanced, happier person myself even if no engagement happens in the current relationship. I’m not gonna be too excited. I will just keep living a happy healthly life!