Selecting a Date.. VENT. Advice needed?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you could move it to the 11th, you could probably move your period… I mean, I know this might sound terrible, but I’ve done in before with birth control for vacations and such?

Post # 4
4163 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you just booked it, you should be able to change the date. Your FFIL may not mind that it’s on his birthday. I’d run it by him- he might actually like sharing the day with you (you could have a special cake/sing happy birthday at the reception.)

And ditto on that you can change your period w/ BC- I did for ours.

Post # 5
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Korenne:  I agree with PP in that you should book the 11th and move your period.  I never once considered ruling out a date (with as difficult as it can be to nail down a summer date) just because of my period.  This reminds me now that I need to calculate it out and see where mine falls, and if it’s the wedding week, I’ll move it up a week or 2.  There’s plenty of time to do this without messing with the effectiveness of your birth control.

Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@Korenne:  I am getting married 8 days after my cousin and a week after two good friends of ours. We are in eachothers wedding! I know what it can be like to work around several other people’s weddings!

They should still be flexible, if the other dates are available. 

My wedding is the same weekend as the birthday of three of my cousins , my grandma and my Aunt. Whatevs.

Do you have overlapping guests? I really doubt they would attend both and they would have to choose.

You can take pills throughout your period so it doesn’t come. I have done this a few times for vacations. 


Post # 7
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

My husband and my anniversary is on his aunt’s birthday. No big deal. He would probably consider it an honor. 🙂 But I got my period the week before my wedding and my period tends to linger on a bit, so I was worried I was still going to have it on the wedding night. I didn’t, so that was a relief. I wasn’t on any form of BC before we got engaged and the date was the first thing I wanted to do. If you are on BC you can talk to your Gyno about using the pill to change the date of your period. It’s worked for a lot of people…

Post # 8
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Korenne:  First, I’m sorry you are stressed out about dates- I know that was the most stressful thing for me so I have been there, and it does suck. But on the bright side, most places are totally fine with moving a booked date, especially if you just booked. I would just see if the 11th is available- it’s really easy to change when you have a period- that’s not a big deal and not wirth getting stressed out about. Plus 7/11 sounds like an awesome anniversary! If 7/11 is booked, I would do 7/18.  My sister is getting married on her FBIL’s birthday- he’s a groomsmen- he doesn’t care and it was the only day that month open. If both days are full, then the wedding is on 7/25- not everyone is going to be able to make any wedding no matter what the day is.  Maybe she can get a quick flight between the two if she really wants to be there, but then at least you tried to move it. Try to stay positive- your wedding is going to be great no matter the day or who can make it.

Post # 9
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d move it to the 11th. Then you still have time for a honeymoon before you have to work in August. The 25th didn’t leave much time. And skipping your period is no problem on birth control, I do it all the time as do many many many other women.

Post # 10
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Korenne:  I personally would call he venue back ASAP and change it to the 11th. Then I’d get on birth control a couple months before the wedding to throw my period off. I did that once for a tropical vacation that I had booked. I realized that the day we leave for vacay was the day that I was supposed to get my period. Yea, no thanks. The birth control delayed it until after we got back from our trip. 

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